Kisah Cinta Utara (Northern Love Stories)

Last Post

2011-08-11T01:09:00.000+08:00

Last posting in this blog is Feb 22, 2011. Approximately 170 days ago. That looong time ago man.

Nevertheless, there are still one or two visitor drop by in every one or two days.

Despite the convenience for the facebook and twitter, I'm still inclined to blogging.

Just the time constraint and insufficient internet connection kept me from being active. Anyway, I'm still and active reader to other people blogs. Even though the list of blog that i closely follow keep changing base on current interest, I'm still reading.

I don't really like to read books because as a typical Malaysian, it is very hard for me to finish it. But i love reading online articles as i can finished it in one shot.

Enough for today. Let have the cheat 'sahur' and go to bed.

Adios.

Cinta Metafora Untuk Kita

2011-02-22T19:15:00.001+08:00

Marilah bersama pejamkan mata
Menghambat bisikan dunia yang berleluasa
Jemput semula ketenangan biar bertamu
Di minda dan di jiwa

Masihkan kita di paksi yang sama
Paksi bertunjangkan keindahan yang kita kongsi bersama
Atau telah tersasar dihambat dunia
Yang hanya sementara
Tetap indahkah atau telah berubah di mata hati kita

Bukalah matamu
Pautlah tanganku
Marilah bersama
Hayati keindahan
Yang kita ada

Biar selama ini
Kita leka menghambat dunia
Dihambat dunia
Yang menggila
Yang mendamba
Lebih dari upaya kita

Biar seketika
Ambillah masa
Biar kita
Hayati sentiasa
Keindahan yang hanya milik kita
Yang kita tahu destinasinya
Tersemat dihati kita

Abadilah milik kita

Inspired by: Sungai Lui

Jogging time with the boys

2011-02-15T11:00:00.000+08:00

The lake mirrorred the morning sky

Love Metaphor

2011-02-15T10:51:00.000+08:00

We learn about 'love' from our experience; and from others'.
From our learning, we try to 'love' someone. When that someone 'love'
back, we fell happy, satisfied and confident.
When that 'love' grow, we feel overconfident and take thing for
granted with some element of arrogant and greed. We neglected all the
desructive signs right in front of our eyes.

And we start got hurt. And got hurt again.

And here I am. Alone missing my love with a broken heart. 'padan muka
aku'. The stupid ignorant arrogant greedy basterds.

May this pain teach me the lessons to be humble in 'love'.

Love the market with confident and humility and the market will love
you back.

Regards,
Abdullah Pantaier

Sent from my iPhone

Thing of The Past & Thing of The Present

2010-09-21T19:06:00.000+08:00

I have been spending sometimes reading back the archive post in my blog in the last few days. I suddently realized one thing. My writing style and my capability to put ideas that flow smoothly in a spontaneous way; of which I cannot do now.

I can also write poem straight into the posting and post it immediately; and it still a good piece of poem; at my own standard.

I think, it is a result of focus and determination when doing something with some specific purpose. I guess, along the way, the purpose faded and I lost the touch; especially when I discovered new interests or have different purpose in living my life. It also due to unavailability of the reliable internet connection or other related tools. Or just changes in the priority on how I spend my time.

Whatever it is, I accept the fact that changes happens and our capability to adapt to the changes will determint our survival.

Quote for Today

2010-09-21T18:45:00.000+08:00

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"
Plato

Selamat Hari Raya

2010-09-20T14:37:00.000+08:00

Kesempatan di selepas raya ini, aku mengambil peluang untuk memohon ampun dan maaf kepada semua atas segala kesilapan sama ada yang disengajakan ataupun tidak.

Jika ada termakan, terminum atau terambil hak-hak org lain, harap dapat dihalalkan.

Raya tahun ini macam biasa. Syukur kerana terdapat kelapangan untuk mengambil cuti yang agak panjang bagi mengunjungi sanak saudara sebelah sendiri dan juga sebelah mertua.

Yang paling best, rasanya tiada yang lain dapat menandingi peluang mengacau dodol di malam raya bersama adik beradik. Resepi turun temurun, dodol raya yang disukai ramai.

Selamat Hari Raya. Maaf Zahir Batin

Kenapa Ramai Yang Gagal

2010-07-27T10:58:00.001+08:00

Republish: http://abangensem.blogspot.com/2010/07/kenapa-ramai-yang-gagal.html

Terkedu aku jap bila diajukan soalan oleh mr pantaier semalam. Soalan beliau yang bertanyakan tentang halangan terbesar bagi mereka yang nak dan telah berkecimpung dalam property investment macam aku sebab katanya ramai yang mencuba tapi tak ramai yang berjaya. Kenapa ye?

Setelah jenuh aku pikir dengan otak aku yang tak berapa besar ni, kesimpulan yang aku dapat ialah masalah sikap kita sendiri adalah halangan paling besar bagi mereka yang baru dan telah berjinak-jinak sebagai property investor. Kenapa aku kata begitu? Ini berdasarkan pengalaman aku bila menyaksikan terlalu ramai kengkawan aku yang gagal. Apa yang aku lihat kebanyakannya melabur tanpa ilmu, lebih sekadar mengikut cakap orang (hearsay). Bila kawan-kawan diorang kata boleh untung kalau beli rumah kat area X, terus je diorang beli tanpa study dulu market kat situ. Bila aku tanya kenapa tak buat market study? Diorang cakap "nak study apa?". Kat sini aku dah nampak yang diorang sebenarnya takde atau tak cukup ilmu pelaburan dan ini membawa makna, mereka sebenarnya tidak mempunyai sikap ingin menimba pengetahuan dahulu sebelum melabur. Mereka ini merupakan golongan yang kurang membaca, menyertai kursus tak pun berguru dengan yang telah berjaya. End up, sekali mereka gagal.. mereka terus tarik handbrake untuk terus melabur lagi. Aku tau antara alasan-alasan klise diorang yang tak berminat untuk menambah ilmu ni adalah sebab 'takde masa' (meminjam ayat mem aku), 'banyak lagi kerja lain yang lagi penting' dan 'takde duit nak beli buku/attend courses'. Betul tak? Kat sini aku nak bagitau sikit kat mereka-mereka yang beralasan begini ~ "Kalau nak mengkayakan diri korang sendiri pun korang dah tak nak (dengan cara menambah ilmu dalam diri korang), usah harap la korang akan berjaya dalam hidup sebab tanpa ilmu ibarat awek tanpa balak. Tak payah la berkira sangat tentang duit yang korang nak kena keluar untuk beli buku atau attend courses sebab hasil yang korang akan dapat lepas tu jauh lebih masyuk dari amaun yang korang telah keluarkan" dan aku bercakap ni pun atas pengalaman yang aku alami sendiri.

Tips n Thots : Pelaburan paling menguntungkan ialah pelaburan ke atas diri korang sendiri (pelaburan menambahkan ilmu pengetahuan).

Terima Kasih Sayang

2010-07-15T14:59:00.001+08:00

Tidak pernah terfikir, terlintas,
dilubuk hatiku
Akan dicinta, sehebat begini

Tidak pernah aku menduga, menjangka,
suram hidupku ini
Diterangi cahaya, pelangi indahmu

Tidak mungkin terkira, menghitung,
nikmatnya hidup ini
Dibawa kehadiranmu, cinta sayangmu

Tidak pernahku percaya, menyingkap,
serba kekuranganku ini
Memiliki gadis secantik, hebat dirimu

Tidak pernah termampu, terdaya,
kudratku ini
Membalas kasih, tulus pengorbananmu

Tidak pernah kulupa, mengalpa
diruang mindaku ini
Mensyukuri hadirmu, membahagiakanku

Selalu ku bulatkan tekad
di hati jiwaku ini,
Sekuat semampuku, menyayangimu

Berbagai cinta keagungan dunia
Romeo Juliet, Samson Delila
Pada sikerdil ini
Kaulah cinta teragung, anugerahku

Kulafazkan di sini,
with humble feeling
"Thank you my dear darling"
Untukmu!

Nukilan: pantaier's

Looks Like We've Made It; Look How Far We've Come Now Baby

2010-07-02T19:07:00.000+08:00

Looks Like We’ve Made It… Look How Far We’ve Come Now Baby…

Quote for today

2010-07-01T14:26:00.001+08:00

Lunch Time Quote for today
"You are correct, lifestyle inflation can really screw things up. I now know that lifestyle inflation is just a mask for "keeping up with the Jones." And I'll be damned if I give a crap about the Jones anymore. "
Jeffrey Kosola from http://deliverawaydebt.com

--
Abdullah

Inside the mind of Singapore's Youngest Millionaire - By Adam Khoo

2010-06-24T12:36:00.001+08:00

From:http://pgcare.blogspot.com/2009/12/inside-mind-of-singapores-youngest.html

Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is travelling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. 'He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self Made Millionaires'). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit in first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.

The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.

When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur's Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth's well over $5m, traveled economy class and some even drove Toyotas and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).

I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth
(no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.

Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewelry or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just gives you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.

Instead, what makes ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me.

I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product. If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a meaningless life.

--
Abdullah

Three Little Words in Relationships

2010-06-09T16:26:00.001+08:00

Source:http://communicatebetter.blogspot.com/
There are many things that we can do to lift up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. One of the most effective techniques involves the use of saying three special words.

1. "I'll Be There"

If you ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is one of the greatest gifts that we can give to another.

When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them as well as to ourselves . We are renewed in love, as well as in friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

2. "I Miss You"

Perhaps more marriages could have been saved and strengthen if couples simply and sincerely say these three words to each other. "I miss you."

These three words act as a powerful affirmation that lets partners know that they are wanted, treasured and loved.

3. "I Respect You"

Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. For example, if you were to talk to your children as if they were adults, you will probably strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships. Do make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

4. "Maybe You're Right"

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong".

Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.

Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

5. "Please Forgive Me."

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures.

A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

6. "I Thank You"

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness.

On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not
have the attitude of gratitude.

7. "Count On Me"

A true friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient in the recipe for a good friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds most people.

Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be true and steady friends.

When troubles arise, a true friend is one that says "count on me"

8. "Let Me Help"

Best friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot
a hurt they do what they can to try to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in to help.

9. "I Understand You"

People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them.

Letting your spouse know in so many different ways that you understand them is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies for any relationship.

10. "I Love You"

Perhaps the most important three words you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to be appreciated and to be wanted.

Your family, your friends and yourself all need to hear these three words. "I Love You"

When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new relationships, deepen old ones, and restore relationships that have mellowed.

These three word phases can be used to enrich any relationship. Use them and enjoy better relationships in your life today!
--
Abdullah

Frugality

2010-05-26T20:25:00.001+08:00

"To be healthy, wealthy, happy and successful in any and all areas of your life you need to be aware that you need to think healthy, wealthy, happy and successful thoughts twenty four hours a day and cancel all negative, destructive, fearful and unhappy thoughts. These two types of thought cannot coexist if you want to share in the abundance that surrounds us all."
—Sidney Madwed

--
Abdullah

8 Things to not Getting an ‘F’ in Personal Finance 101

2010-05-24T19:52:00.000+08:00

Source:http://lenpenzo.com/blog/id1142-8-big-reasons-why-youre-getting-an-f-in-personal-finance-101.html

The First Commandment: 'spend less than you earn'

1. Have emergency fund to avoid unnecessary debt.

2. Always know your bank account balance.

3. Understand the difference between a want and a need.

4. Track spending to know how much money you spend.

5. Tastes must not exceed spending capability.

Understand that this is not a problem, so much as an excuse. When your expensive tastes starts impacting your ability to save, you're in for trouble.

Extra Credit: If your tastes exceed your budget, ratchet them down a notch or three – and stop making lame excuses.

6. Say no.

Many people do understand the difference between a want and a need, but they have trouble saying no anyway. Being able to say no is a crucial skill in the world of personal finance. Those that can't will always have the most trouble keeping their personal finances on an even keel.

Extra Credit: Master the art of saying no.

7. Stop 'impulse buying'.

Impulse buying is a nasty habit that can best be cured by careful planning.

8. You worry about what others think about you.

People that worry about what others think of them suffer from a predilection to conspicuous consumption, otherwise known as the desire to keep up with the Joneses. There are many reasons why people do this: the urge to advertise their success in life (be it real or imagined), the desire to have what others have, and instant gratification, just to name a few. Unfortunately, people with a poor grip on their personal finances fail to understand this little piece of reality: the Joneses are broke.

Untuk Mama

2010-05-13T16:24:00.000+08:00

tujukan khas untuk ibu kepada anak-anakku... sempena hari ibu yang dah lama lepas.

Thanks mama!

Counting the bless

2010-04-28T22:01:00.000+08:00

1. I have an amazing wife and wonderfull kids. Despite my countless flaws that constraint me from being a wonderful person to them, they still wonderfully love me. They are the world to me.

2. Despite all the sucks thing that an employee has in a working world, I still have what can be considered a 'paid vacation' almost every month that also come with some allowance, in the east coast of Malaysia. Even though it still working and still have to work, being outside office can keep you in perspectives. Getting some different view away from your cubicle, really help to keep you sane.

Two is enough for this time. The list can be super long.

Adios.

Don da Pantaier's

Counting the bless

2010-04-28T21:52:00.000+08:00

1. I have an amazing wife and wonderfull kids. Despite my countless flaws that constraint me from being a wonderful person to them, they still wonderfully love me. They are the world to me.

Two is enough for this time. The list can be super long.

Adios.

Don da Pantaier's

Keikhlasan

2010-04-20T21:15:00.001+08:00

Sharing as a reminder to myself and anybody who willing to be reminded. Article from e-mail.

ORANG IKHLAS ITU TERTINDAS?

Jika kita memberi kebaikan kepada seseorang, kebaikan itu akan dibalas walaupun yang membalasnya bukan orang yang kita berikan kebaikan itu. Hakikat ini mengingatkan saya kepada satu perbualan yang berlaku sewaktu saya mengendalikan program latihan beberapa tahun lalu di sebuah organisasi.

"Saya tidak mempunyai apa-apa harapan lagi pada organisasi ini," kata seorang kakak berterus-terang.
"Mengapa?" balas saya.
"Organisasi ini dipenuhi oleh kaki bodek dan kaki ampu. Saya terseksa bekerja secara ikhlas di sini. Tidak pernah dihargai, tidak ada ganjaran yang wajar. Saya bukannya orang yang bermuka-muka. Tak pandai saya nak ampu-ampu orang atas, Fokus saya kepada kerja sahaja."

Kakak itu sebenarnya adalah peserta program yang paling senior. Telah berpuluh tahun bekerja dalam organisasi tersebut. Itu adalah kali terakhir dia mengikuti program latihan. Enam bulan lagi dia akan bersara. Kesempatan yang diberikan kepadanya dalam sesi memperkenalkan diri itu telah digunakannya sepenuhnya untuk meluahkan rasa kecewa dan marahnya sepanjang berkhidmat di situ. Sungguh, dia kecewa sekali. Siapa tidak marah, jika bekerja secara ikhlas dan gigih tetapi tidak pernah dinaikkan pangkat atau mendapat kenaikan gaji?

Sewaktu rehat, sambil minum-minum dan berbual santai saya bertanya kepadanya, "kakak punya berapa orang anak?"
Sengaja saya bertanya soal-soal "di luar kotak" agar ketegangan dalam sesi sebelumnya dapat diredakan.
"Oh ramai encik…"
"Bagaimana dengan anak-anak kakak?"

Wah, saya lihat dia begitu ceria apabila mula menceritakan tentang anak-anaknya. Boleh dikatakan semua anak-anaknya berjaya dalam profesion masing-masing. Ada yang menjadi doktor, jurutera, pensyarah dan sebagainya. Malah seorang anaknya telah menjadi hafiz.
"Kakak, boleh saya bertanya?"
"Tanyalah encik…" ujar kakak itu sambil tersenyum. Mendung di wajahnya sudah berlalu. Dia begitu teruja bila bercerita tentang anak-anaknya. Memang, semua anak-anaknya menjadi.

"Jika kakak diberi pilihan, antara anak-anak yang "menjadi" dengan naik gaji, mana yang kakak pilih?"
Belum sempat dia menjawab, saya bertanya lagi, "antara kakak naik pangkat dengan anak-anak berjaya dalam karier mereka, mana yang kakak pilih?"

Dengan cepat kakak itu menjawab, "hati ibu encik… tentulah saya pilih anak-anak saya menjadi walaupun tidak naik gaji atau dapat pangkat. Anak-anak adalah harta kita yang paling berharga!"

Saya tersenyum. Hati ibu, begitulah semestinya.
"Kakak, sebenarnya keikhlasan dan kegigihan kakak bekerja dalam organisasi ini telah mendapat ganjaran…" kata saya perlahan. Hampir berbisik.
"Maksud encik?"
"Allah telah membalas dengan ganjaran yang lebih baik dan lebih kakak lebih sukai. Bila kakak ikhlas bekerja dalam organisasi ini, Allah berikan kepada kakak anak-anak yang menjadi."
"Tidak pernah saya terfikir begitu encik…"

"Allah Maha Berkuasa. Ada kalanya takdir dan perbuatan-Nya terlalu misteri dan rahsia untuk dijangkau oleh pemikiran kita. Tetapi yakinlah what you give, you get back. Itu hukum sunatullah dalam hubungan sesama manusia. Kebaikan yang kita buat akan kembali kepada kita. Yakinlah."
"Walaupun bukan daripada seseorang atau sesuatu pihak yang kita berikan kebaikan itu?"
"Maksud kakak?"

"Macam ni, saya buat kebaikan kepada organisasi tempat saya bekerja, tapi Allah berikan kebaikan kepada keluarga. Pembalasan Allah bukan di tempat saya bekerja, sebaliknya diberikan dalam keluarga saya. Begitukah encik?"
"Itulah yang saya katakan tadi, takdir Allah kekadang terlalu misteri. Tetapi ketetapannya mutlak dan muktamad, siapa yang memberi kebaikan akan dibalas dengan kebaikan. Dalam istilah biasa itu dipanggil golden rule!"

Kakak itu termenung. Mungkin memikirkan pertalian dan kaitan antara apa yang berlaku dalam organisasi dengan familinya.
"Metafora atau analoginya begini. Katalah kita sedang memandu di satu jalan yang mempunyai dua atau tiga lorong. Penuh sesak. Tiba-tiba sebuah kereta yang tersalah lorong di sebelah memberi isyarat untuk masuk ke lorong kita. Kerana simpati melihat dia terkial-kial memberi isyarat, kita pun beralah, lalu memberi laluan untuk kereta itu masuk di hadapan kita…"

Saya berhenti seketika mengambil nafas sambil mencari reaksi. Saya lihat kakak itu mendengar penuh minat. Dia meneliti metafora yang saya sampaikan dengan begitu teliti.
"Kemudian kita terus memandu ke hadapan. Mungkin sejam kemudian atau setelah berpuluh-puluh kilometer, tiba-tiba kita pula yang tersalah lorong. Kita pula yang memberi lampu isyarat untuk masuk ke lorong sebelah. Soalnya logikkah kalau kita mengharapkan kereta yang kita bantu sebelumnya memberi laluan untuk kita?"

Kakak itu tersenyum dan berkata, "tak logik encik. Kereta yang kita bantu tadi entah ke mana perginya."
"Tapi ada tak kereta lain yang simpati dan memberi laluan untuk kita?'
"Pasti ada! Insya-Allah."
"Ya, begitulah. Padahal kereta itu tidak pernah sekali pun kita tolong. Tetapi Allahlah yang menggerakkan hati pemandunya untuk memberi laluan kepada kita. Orang yang kita beri kebaikan, tidak ada di situ untuk membalas kebaikan kita… Tetapi Allah menggerakkan hati orang lain, yang tidak pernah merasa kebaikan kita untuk membalas kebaikan kita tadi."

"Subhanallah!"
"Begitu dalam litar di jalan raya dan begitu jualah litar dalam kehidupan manusia. Kita buat baik kepada A, tetapi kerap kali bukan A yang membalas kebaikan kita tetapi B atau C atau D atau lain-lainnya yang membalasnya. Inilah hakikat yang berlaku dalam kehidupan ini."
"Kita tidak boleh kecewa bila keikhlasan kita dipersiakan?" tanya kakak itu lagi. Lebih kepada satu respons minta diiyakan.

"Kakak, ikhlas sebenar tidak pinta dibalas. Tetapi Allah Maha Kaya dan Maha Pengasih, siapa yang ikhlas akan diberi ganjaran walaupun mereka tidak memintanya kerana setiap kebaikan itu akan dikembalikan kepada orang yang melakukannya. Ia umpama bola yang dibaling ke dinding, akan melantun semula kepada pembalingnya!"
"Selalunya saya dengar, orang ikhlas akan dibalas di akhirat."
"Itulah balasan yang lebih baik dan kekal. Tetapi saya katakan tadi, Allah Maha kaya, Allah mahu dan mampu membalas keikhlasan hamba-Nya di dunia lagi."

"Maksud encik?"
"Orang yang ikhlas akan diberi ketenangan dan kebahagiaan dalam hidup. Anak-anak yang soleh dan solehah. Isteri yang taat atau suami yang setia. Dan paling penting… hati yang sejahtera. Inilah kekayaan dan kelebihan yang lebih utama daripada pangkat, gaji dan jawatan."
"Jadi orang ikhlas akan terus ditindas, tidak dapat kenaikan pangkat atau gaji? Bukan apa, saya terfikir kenapa nasib kaki ampu dan kaki bodek lebih baik dalam organisasi. Mereka dapat naik pangkat!"

Giliran saya pula tersenyum.
"Tidak ada kebaikan yang akan kita dapat melalui jalan yang salah. Percayalah, kalau benar mereka kaki ampu dan bodek sahaja… pangkat yang mereka dapat akan menyebabkan mereka melarat. Gaji naik, tetapi ketenangan hati menurun. Ingat apa yang saya kata tadi, what you give you get back… Golden rule itu bukan untuk kebaikan sahaja, tetapi untuk kejahatan juga. Kalau kita berikan kejahatan, kejahatan itu akan kembali semula kepada kita. Kaki ampu, mungkin akan dapat anak yang pandai bermuka-muka. Kaki bodek mungkin dibalas dengan isteri yang berpura-pura!" terang saya panjang lebar.

"Jadi apa yang harus saya lakukan dengan baki masa perkhidmatan yang tinggal tidak beberapa bulan lagi ni?"
"Bekerjalah dengan gigih. Walaupun mungkin bos tidak melihatnya, tetapi Allah Maha Melihat. Bekerja itu satu ibadah. God is our "ceo", kata orang sekarang. Insya-Allah, satu hari nanti manusia juga akan diperlihatkan oleh Allah tentang keikhlasan manusia yang lain. Jangan berhenti memberi kebaikan hanya kerana tidak dapat penghargaan…"
"Maksud encik?"

"Jangan mengharap terima kasih daripada manusia atas kebaikan yang kita buat kepadanya."
"Kenapa?"
"Kita akan sakit jiwa!"
"Kenapa?"
"Kerana umumnya manusia tidak pandai berterima kasih. Lihatlah, kalau kepada Allah yang Maha Memberi pun manusia tidak pandai bersyukur dan berterima kasih, apalagi kepada manusia yang pemberiannya terbatas dan berkala. Sedikit sekali daripada manusia yang bersyukur," balas saya mengulangi apa yang maktub dalam Al Quran.

"Tetapi Allah tidak berhenti memberi… " kata kakak itu perlahan.
"Walaupun manusia tidak berterima kasih kepada-Nya. Sekalipun kepada yang derhaka dan kafir, tetapi Allah terus memberi… Justeru siapa kita yang tergamak berhenti memberi hanya kerana tidak mendapat penghargaan dan ucapan terima kasih?"
"Ah, kita terlalu ego…"

Dan itulah kesimpulan perbualan yang saya kira sangat bermakna dan besar impaknya dalam hidup saya. Saya terasa "diperingatkan" semasa memberi peringatan kerana pada hakikatnya saya juga tidak terlepas daripada lintasan hati oleh satu pertanyaan… orang ikhlas tertindas?

--
Don da Pantaier's

Why this blog is dead

2010-04-14T00:06:00.000+08:00

Initial Purpose:
To make money from associated advertising program (payperpost & nuffnang) while my passion is not suitable with that aspect. I only managed to make few cents with nuffnang and 25 buck from fisrt money that everybody make from payperpost.
Once I understand the mechanism, I knew that this money is not for me.

'Openness'
There are so many things that I'm not willing to share with the world (even only few people read it anyway), yet so little things that all I have. I'm not willing to share my view on politics, I don't do sports, not even sitting on the couch watching sports channels, I don't read books that much even I do read a lot of articles on line, I'm very deserve about my feelings, I don't care much about what happening here and there, I always think that the world is behaving the it supposed to be and we are the one who needs to adapt to the changes, so I don't have things to complaint about, and the list goes on...

Passion in the past
I like poetry, I like arts, I like drawing, I love musics. But... why ah?
Hehehe... I'm in a life stages or we might call it phase... Where it is not the time for me to be melancholic, sentimental blues what not... In the early 30's, a guy focus on strengthening their financial situation, building their wealth portfolio or climbing the corporate ladder. Some people start it earlier while some still in their dream world. But that the stage of mine.

Blame the internet
I don't have sufficient internet connection making blogging difficult and boring. Hehehe.

Writers Block???
I'm not even view myself as a writer.

Language Barrier???
I'm sound stupid when I speak english languange. My writing in Malay also very bad. And that the only two that I know.

Shutting down this blog? No. Too many sentimental things in here. I'll left it idle here. Bukan kene bayar pon.

Don da Pantaier's

Jalan Kebaikan vs Jalan Sebaliknya

2010-03-08T09:54:00.001+08:00

Jalan ke arah kebaikan amat berliku
Jalan sebaliknya lurus terbentang
Ditambah dengan fitrah manusia
Yang menjurus ke arah sebaliknya
Dan berat langkah kaki
Kalau hendak berubah ke arah kebaikan

Perlu kuat
Perlu sentiasa ingatkan diri
Untuk sentiasa ke arah kebaikan
Demi esok yang sentiasa lebih baik

Marilah kita sentiasa mengingati diri
Agar sentiasa ke arah kebaikan
Sentiasa lebih baik
Sentiasa lebih baik

--
Don da Pantaier's

Apa Yer?

2010-03-02T01:13:00.000+08:00

Apakah yang bermain di fikiran ku saat ini?
Apa yang ingin aku curahkan di kala ini?
Disaat mata masih segar enggan terlena
Dikala minda seperti tidak mampu berkerja lagi.

Mac adalah bulan yang sentiasa mendatangkan stress setiap tahun. Tekanan perasaan di bulan Mac ditempat kerja selalunya tinggi kerana Mac adalah bulan terakhir dalam tahun kewangan syarikat. Banyak perkara perlu di selesaikan sebelum tahun kewangan berakhir.

Esok aku diberi peluang untuk meninggalkan beban itu buat seketika dan meneroka bahagian-bahagian lain di dalam diri yang mungkin mempunyai potensi untuk dikembangkan. Mungkinkah aku akan berjaya meneroka dan menemui sesuatu yang baru, yang selama ini terpendam, tidak pernah diekploitasikan sebelum ini.

Dan proses itu akan dijalankan sambil ditemani secara ekslusif oleh flora dan fauna serta diiringi muzik semulajadi anugerah alam. Mungkinkah irama air terjun berlagu indah menanti aku di sana? Akan adakah unggas-unggas berkicau menyambut kehadiranku?

Apa sekalipun, apa yang penting, kerjasama.

Note: apa kes amik orang lain punya tagline. mmmm... pernahkah aku mempunyai tagline aku sendiri?

Tak tahu....

Petua Rumahtangga Part II: Reporting

2010-01-18T23:31:00.000+08:00

Fish Curry Adabi

Fish curry with the recipe from the back of Adabi Curry Powder package "Kari Ikan Haruan"
This is my first time ever cooking curry. I gave me an A for this curry. There's nothing I want to complain about except it 'meruap' after I add the coconut milk.

Fried 'Ikan Keli'

Tasted as nice as fried ikan keli from the foodstall except extra 'masin'.

Mixed Vege.

A mixed of vegetables (carrots, 'kacang buncis', fish ball, fish cake and 'bunga kobis') with oyster sauce. This one is a failure. I never done it right. Extra sauce and salt. But the additional tomato make it looked good though. C minus for this one.

And my stamina for other chores only last until 1600 hours before I'm exhausted. Only managed to do one round of laundry, cleaning of all the mess from the cooking and washing the all dishes.

Now I know it hard to be a full time home maker. What more for a working wife. But the best lessons I learned from this is now I enjoy helping with all the chores around the house knowing that I'm doing it for the people I love with all my heart.

Azfar

Adam

And her...

TGIF...

2010-01-15T14:55:00.001+08:00

It was a chilly morning today with the morning breeze blowing to my face. It makes me recall a dialogue from a movie "Girl Next Door"

"just chillin'…".

And then he took her to a motel room and when she starts undress with some sexy move, he irritatingly asked.

"what are you doing"

She sadly said:

"this is what you want to do, right? Fucking a porn star in a cheap motel room"

And then I realized the different between fucking and making love. Fucking is an action when we doing just for the sake of sex. While making love is we have sex for the sake of love.

After that, I remember the speech in that movie that I really like.

"Finding that one thing you really care about. When you find her, you fight for her. You risk it all, you put her in front of everything, you future, your life, all of it. And maybe the stuff you do to help her isn't so clean. It doesn't matter. Because you know that the juice is worth the squeeze"
Full Quote:
"Moral fiber. So, what is moral fiber? It's funny, I used to think it was always telling the truth, doing good deeds, basically [mumbling] being a fucking boy scout. But lately I've been seeing it differently. Now I think moral fiber's about finding that one thing you really care about. That one special thing that means more to you than anything else in the world. And when you find her, you fight for her. You risk it all, you put her in front of everything, your future, your life, all of it. And maybe the stuff you do to help her isn't so clean. You know what? It doesn't matter. Because in your heart you know, that the juice is worth the squeeze. That's what moral fiber's all about."

And then I just finished my 'roti canai dua keping' and get ready to go to work.

--
Don da Pantaier's

Another News that Give Me a "Goosebumps"

2010-01-14T14:09:00.001+08:00

I don't know whether 'goosebumps' is the right word. But I really feel the heartache when reading this news.

But I really cannot understand how a son is afraid or whatever the reasons listen to his wife to abandon his father at the roadside. Some father might not be a very good father but that is their part and they are answerable for that.

But a son is not supposed to say even a little 'no' to his farther. And it is a son's responsibility to look for his parents.

Yesterday, I got the same feeling when reading the news about a one year boy whose slipped from his father's arm while struggling and fell down 5 storey apartment and immediately died.

"Semoga Allah melindungi diriku dari perbuatan menderhaka seperti itu atau mana-mana perbuatan derhaka kepada kedua ibu bapaku. Amin"

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2010/1/14/nation/5464727&sec=nation

A 57-year-old man, who had just undergone heart surgery, thought he could recuperate at home but was in for a shock when his son told him not to return home.

Harian Metro reported that Abdul Rahman Talib was abandoned by the roadside in Kangar with just a bag of clothes by his 30-year-old son after his daughter-in-law refused to let him back into the house.

"I asked my son to drive me to town although I did not know where I could go. Instead, he left me in front of a school.

"I cried as I stepped out from his car. I did not expect him to treat me like this after I've brought him up lovingly all these years," he said, adding that he felt lost wandering around before finally settling down for the night at a bus stop.

Abdul Rahman said the following day, his son had come to look for him but the old man's joy was short-lived when he realised that the son was only dropping off his bicycle.

He said he met an acquaintance near the school two days later and was invited to spend the night at his house.

It is understood that the Social Welfare Department had since sent Abdul Rahman to the Batu Bertangkap Welfare Home in Beseri.

Petua Rumahtangga Untuk Pasangan Yang Sudah Beberapa Tahun Berkahwin

2010-01-13T22:12:00.001+08:00

Got an idea today, at this very moment!

I want to give her a no chores day this weekend. I will stay at home
all day and do all the chores like washing clothes, cooking, taking
care of the kids and let her rest all day.

Can't wait for this Sunday!

--
Sent from my mobile device

Don da Pantaier's

Wednesday Morning Blues

2010-01-13T07:15:00.001+08:00

7 AM, the sunshine been shy away by the dark clouds
Feeling chilly biting my shirtless skins
But very warm inside
Fired by flaming feel of love

Watching kids walking to the school
And the traffics start filling the roads
Standing at the balcony of my gloomy apartment
Thinking of love

It only 10 minutes ago
I sent her off to work
Already miss her badly
My lovely girl

Desperately need to spend
Some quality time with her
Time that we missed
The time of love

--
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Don da Pantaier's

The Personal Financial Gurus

2010-01-12T22:23:00.000+08:00

I'm among the fortunates people who have parents and siblings who love
me as I am. I'm thankful for this bless which many people don't have.
One thing I'm lack of is the early education on personal financial.
In my late twenties, been in the deep hole of debts, I'm started to
get the exposures on personal financial.
The first one is the famous Robert Kiyosaki. I read some of his book
like Rich Dad Poor Dad and some other book from him.
After that I read Azizi Ali's books. His explanations are more related
to me as he his fully employed while pursuing the financial freedom.
He also cover a lot on Malaysian situation which more applicable to
me.
I never implement what I read back then. It is not until about a year
ago, while I'm reading the Singapore's Adam Khoo, coupled with Anthony
Robins' and befriend with some colleagues who implement those
strategies toward personal financial freedom.
Now I'm following closely Ramit Sethi's blog, the New York Time best
selling author of 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich'. When I found his
blog, I'm already started implementing some of his strategies.
Interesting factor about Ramit is his approach on personal financial
is more toward psychology. He cover a lot on psychological barriers
that make people not taking the right action on personal financial. He
also invented ways step by step to overcome those barriers.
Now I'm a little step ahead in managing my personal financial. It
still long way to go toward the financial stability, what more the
ultimate financial freedom.

--
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Don da Pantaier's

A Boy Doing The Man's Job

2010-01-12T18:19:00.001+08:00

Why on earth I have to deal with the boy whose doing a man's job. When it is well known that they are inefficient for few years, they still let the boy doing the man's job.Is it very difficult to find the man to handle the job or everybody there is just blind?

Is inefficiency have been acknowledge as an acceptable level down there? When what at stake is multimillion business. Or should I take the bold move to highlight this to the highest level?

Sigh.

--
Don da Pantaier's

Low Man Lyrics

2010-01-05T00:02:00.001+08:00

Why people still doing thing that make them feel bad about themselves,
when they know exactly what they'll feel after doing that?

Why people still stay up late when they know that they will wake up
late and start their day tomorrow feeling blue, and having the rest of
the day bad?

Psychological barrier. What is that? Baru nak google. Esok lah. Tido
dulu. Esok nak bangun awal and feel energetic.

--
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Don da Pantaier's

Curik Dari Blog MakCik Nani

2009-12-30T17:52:00.001+08:00

Curik ke? curik laa tu... tak mintak kebenaran... Makcik ke? Tak kot... kakak je kot... tapi, rasa boleh di letak kat sini supaya boleh baca selalu dan ingat dan buat panduan. Parenting tips yang rasa macam simple tapi powerful tapi susah nak dihayati dah dipraktikkan.

DIA MAKCIK SAYA

Dulu saya paling 'adore' sikap salah seorang makcik saya terhadap anak-anaknya.Beliau seorang lemah lembut dan penyayang.

Sewaktu kecil dulu, hampir setiap hari saya akan bertandang dan bermain di rumah makcik saya ini, jadi saya memerhatikan cara dia membesarkan anak-anaknya. Beliau memang seorang ibu yang sangat mengambil berat akan keperluan anak-anaknya sekalipun kehidupan mereka sekeluarga bukan lah senang sangat.

Dari keperluan makanan, pakaian, perkakas dan yuran sekolah hinggalah kepada sesuatu yang kurang perlu seperti barang-barang permainan anak-anak tetap disediakan sebaik mungkin walau pendapatan orang kampung seperti kami waktu itu sekadar kais pagi makan pagi.

Sikapnya yang sangat redha dan penyabar dan mendidik anak-anak yang sedang meningkat remaja, memang sangat saya kagumi. Hampir tidak pernah melihat beliau meleteri anak-anaknya. Ada waktu-waktunya, bila anak-anak membangkang nasihat beliau, beliau cuma menunjukkan kemarahan dan kekecewaan beliau dengan deraian airmata.

Sekarang bila saya mendidik anak-anak, banyak sifat-sifat mak saudara saya terapkan dalam diri saya. Saya jadikan dia sebagai idola saya kerana dalam diri beliau memang ada ilmu 'parenting skill' secara semulajadi.

Bagi saya untuk menjadikan anak-anak anda hebat, anda haruslah sanggup menjadi ibu yang hebat. Namun tidak ada jalan yang mudah untuk menjadi ibu yang hebat melainkan anda :-

1. Seorang ibu yang rajin. Anda akan sentiasa dikagumi oleh anak-anak apabila anda mempunyai sifat rajin. Anak-anak juga mahu sentiasa menjadikan anda idola mereka. Ini menjadikan mudah untuk mendidik anak-anak untuk sentiasa mendengar nasihat anda.

2.Seorang ibu yang suka masak. Menangi hati suami dan anak-anak melalui masakan anda.

3. Jadilah ibu yang suka mendengar daripada didengar. Ibu yang tidak banyak bercakap atau berleter, lebih dihormati dan disayangi anak-anak.

4. Jadilah insan yang penyayang terhadap semua makhluk Allah s.w.t. Sayang binatang terutama binatang kesayangan nabi kita s.a.w iaitu kucing juga merupakan satu terapi untuk mendidik dan memupuk perasaan kasih-sayang dalam diri anak-anak.

5.Selalu duduk bersama semua anak-anak untuk mendengar mereka bercerita apa saja topik dan ambil peluang untuk anda bercerita tentang kisah-kisah tauladan dan kisah sewaktu anda kecil.

6. Cuba sedaya upaya memenuhi apa sahaja kemahuan anak-anak dan terangkan secara terperinci sekiranya kita tidak mampu untuk memenuhinya.

7. Usahakan untuk sering bersama anak-anak walau kemana kita pergi terutama ke tempat-tempat yang disukai oleh anak-anak.

8. Anak pertama yang berjaya akan menjadi ikutan adik-adiknya. Sekiranya anda mampu, pastikan anak pertama mendapat pendidikan yang terbaik seawal mungkin.

9. Jangan paksa anak anda makan banyak. Sekiranya dari kecil anak anda sudah biasa makan banyak, mereka hanya ingat makan, makan dan tiada kepentingan lain selain dari makan dan otak akan berhenti bekerja.

10. Jadilah ibu yang penyabar dan penuh kasih sayang. Hari ini anda menyayangi anak-anak, esok lusa anak-anak akan lebih menyayangi anda.Apabila anak-anak menyayangi ibu mereka, sudah pasti mereka berusaha untuk menggembirakan hati ibu bapa.

http://nanirostam.blogspot.com/2009/12/dia-makcik-saya.html

Why A Phone Is Not A 'She'

2009-12-24T07:57:00.001+08:00

Most of the big boy's toy like sport car, superbike, ship and etc is a
'she'. But I don't think a mobile phone is a she. Because it not
really expensive to get and girls also have it. Period.

My phone, when she knew that I 'merajuk' with her, she started to
behave. (i feel it relevant in this context to address this phone as a
'she'). After I made the frustration posting, the e-mail application
(mail for exchange - outlook) started to work properly. I also
remember that I have this gmail application install in this phone and
its working just fine. So I can sent and read gmail conveniencely from
this gmail application instead of using gmail from the phone e-mail
menu that not working properly.
A friend of mine informed that Nokia have the facebook application for
E71 available for download from the Ovi Store. Even that facebook
application is not as good as blackberry's, iPhone's or Window's, they
do have facebook application.
It make me remember a story of 3 construction workers, working on tall
building that frustrated with their lives. Instead of working on
improving their lives, they jumped from the building and died.

--
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Don da Pantaier's

Tribute To The Beauty

2009-12-23T23:08:00.001+08:00

She is very beautiful. Watching her sleeping (or half sleeping) make
me really feel loved.
I would like to get rid one of my bad habit as a tribute to her
beauty. With due date of 31 December 2009.
May I have the strenght to get it done. Amin.

Love...
Pantaier's

--
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Don da Pantaier's

Frustration: Life's Motivator

2009-12-22T13:51:00.001+08:00

I am motivated to change my E71 to an iPhone because I am frustrated with my current phone.

The mail for exchange for outlook e-mail is not working properly lately. I also cannot send e-mail for my Gmail. I also cannot find facebook, twitter and youtube application that work properly / compatible with the phone.

When more and more smart phone that have the application available in the market, my phone just don't have it. Sigh.

But financial wise, i still not deserve an iPhone. I'm still contemplating to spend the money for a phone that compatible with some application that not really bring much value to me anyway. Just envy to others who have that. That not good enough.

So I think, having an iPhone as my next birthday present can be considered as proper justification. The only problem is my next birthday is like a million years away. Sigh lagi.

========================= Posting in a posting===================================
this is the posting that cannot be sent from gmail from my phone....

Subject: Melankolik

First part: 10/12/2009

Akhir-akhir ini, terasa keinginan untuk meng'update' blog sangat kurang. Ditambah pula dengan kesihatan yang kurang memuaskan kerana dijangkiti demam, batuk dan selesema. Demam telah sembuh pada hari kedua serangan. Selesema masih kekal pada tahap 'mild'. Cuba batuk yang betul-betul menduga diri ini sekarang. Begitulah ujian untuk diriku, alhamdulillah.

Hidup sedan melalui tahap melankolik. Adakah diri ini merasakan kekurangan sesuatu? Kehilangan sesuatu? Atau aku sedang menafikan sesuatu? Mungkinkah aku risaukan sesuatu? Ataukah aku teringinkan sesuatu tetapi tidak berpeluang mendapatkannya? Atau sedikit-sedikit daripada semuanya. Sigh...

Second part: 21/12/2009
Hari ini, suasana angin bertiup sepanjang masa, membangkitkan nostalgia. Memancing rasa bahagia. Ingin berada di dalam dakapan cinta, sentiasa. Esok seperti menanti untuk menyapa dengan senyum tawa. Semoga ada, sentiasa.

note: gambar di atas menunjukkan suasana daun-daun luruh membawa nostalgia ditambah dengan suasana bayu bertiup sepanjang hari. I like.

===========================================================================================

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Don da Pantaier's

Appreciating The Concept of Delayed Gratification

2009-12-21T19:45:00.001+08:00

Nak iPhone... (while my current phone is still not obsolete)
Nak kereta... (while the need is not really there)
Nak camera DSLR...

it all need to be delayed if we want to achieve financial stability...

Knowing something is something... appreciating it and applying it in life is another thing...

Make learning fun (The Star 9 Dec 2009)

2009-12-09T18:21:00.001+08:00

I WELCOME the move by the Education Ministry to improve the teaching standard and quality in primary schools as announced by its minister Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin ("Quality education to begin at primary level" – The Star, Dec 7).

While it is right to push for quality education starting from primary schools, it must be stressed that quality in this case does not mean just obtaining straight As in the examinations, particularly in the UPSR.

Quality education at primary level should be one that caters for the overall balanced and comprehensive development of a child during his or her formative years.

A friend related an alarming incident during the release of the UPSR results recently. A parent who came with his son to collect the results was so upset that he obtained only 4As and 1B that he left the son in the school without saying a word.

The poor boy was so upset that he broke down and wept and had to be consoled by a concerned teacher. We can imagine the anguish of the little boy who was reprimanded despite having done extremely well.

Such incidents are not uncommon these days where parents expect nothing less than the maximum As in every examination.

It is unfortunate that our education has become so examination-oriented that from the time the child goes to school he/she is pushed very hard to achieve maximum As in school exams and the UPSR.

Parents want nothing less than straight As. They spend large sums of money to send their children to the best tuition centres in town, sometimes for multiple tuition sessions.

The child is involved in studies and homework the whole day. There is hardly any time for play, which is what a child in primary school should basically be doing.

Children in primary schools should spend time at play and interacting with one another. This is particularly important in our country which has a diverse ethnic population.

It is in playing, eating, living or even praying together that they cultivate close and unbreakable bonds between one another.

Learning should be made more fun by mixing it with games and informality. It should stimulate young curious minds to ask questions and not be reprimanded for doing so.

Emphasis on character building and moral values should begin in primary school and continue into secondary level.

The right value system should be taught to all children in primary schools so that such values become deeply embedded at a very young age.

The future of our nation depends very much on what and how we teach our children today. Are our students, including the top achievers, really prepared to face the challenges of the global world where competition is based purely on merit?

Are they instilled with the values of moderation and tolerance in inter-ethnic relationships that are so vital for the peace, harmony and prosperity of the nation? Are they instilled with the right passion for whatever career they may take up?

These are some pertinent questions for our policy makers, educationists and, most important, parents.

A good and quality education should be able to answer these three questions in the affirmative, whereas a system that emphasises only on As will deny the future generations of all these attributes that are so essential for nation building.

DR CHRIS ANTHONY,

Butterworth.

Last Month's Story

2009-12-09T15:52:00.001+08:00

I know what we did last raya. Because it is just last month.

Actually, we take time out to bring the twins with tens of their cousins and aunts for a trip to Gua Kelam, Perlis.
First we went to Snake Park. Not many snake there because they have mostly local snake. A new experience for me and the kids is watching closely the 'buaya tembaga'. At first, that croc only laying and sleeping. After some time its started to move and making some croc sound. Some creepy sound.
After that, we went to play in the stream as in the picture. The kids really love it playing in the small river.
After finish playing in the stream, we went through the 'cave of darkness'.
Amazing experience.

My other half completed her dip of education and attended her convocation. I took a one day leave and attended the ceremony. Congratulation my dear. I'm proud of you.

Its some memorable pre, during and post raya experiences for me this year.

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This is How Losing is Done!!!

2009-10-30T14:21:00.001+08:00

Let me tell you something that even I just know. When the world is all sunshine and rainbows, or perceived as sunshine and rainbows, and life beat you very-very softly. You don't even know that you got hit. It just like a pat on your back but bring you down to your feet. Every time you get back on your feet and moving forward, it hit again. And you didn't notice it again. But you are permanently down there.

THAT HOW LOSING IS DONE.

Sighs.

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How Winning is Done!!!

"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.

But it ain't about how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. . It's How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done.

Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not point fingers and blame other people. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!"

I will Never Seat In A Train Unless It's Empty

2009-10-28T13:08:00.001+08:00

This morning while commuting to work, there one elderly man standing helplessly beside me. The train is full. All the seats close to us were occupied by young foreigners, heading to British Council for their English Courses, I guess.

There a sign that been ignored... these seat are reserve for pregnant ladies, elderly, senior citizens and disable, please be courteous (more or less like that laa).

I'm thinking, instead of depending of courtesy of the people who are seated to offer, can we educate our society to ask for a seat they deserve. Elderly, pregnant ladies and disables, please open your mouth and ask for the seat your deserve. Even you feel quite comfortable standing, please ask.

It will save others from feeling bad for seeing you standing while some youngsters seating. Its a heavy feeling to carry even for a short while before we forget about it.

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You Are Not Your Money

2009-10-27T12:03:00.001+08:00

We are more than our investments.
We are more than the year-to-year or day-by-day changes in our net worth.
We are what we do for charity.
We are how we treat our family and friends.
We are how we treat our dogs and cats.
We are what we do for our community and our nation.
If you had $100 million or $100,000 a year ago and now you have a lot less, you are still the same person.
You are not a balance sheet, at least not one denominated in money, as was explained to me recently.

Losing and making money are not moral issues so long as you are being honest.
You may have a lot less money as this year ends than you did two years ago.
But you are just as good or bad a person as you were then.
It is a myth that money determines who you are.

Credit:Ben Stein

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The Irony Is...

2009-10-26T18:01:00.001+08:00

Ramai orang beranggapan bahawa kita akan menjadi lebih bahagia apabila kita mempunya lebih banyak duit. Kajian menunjukkan apabila kita mempunyai lebih banyak duit, kita akan terjerumus kepada keadaan yang membuatkan kita memerlukan lebih banyak duit. Apabila kita semakin kaya, kita akan inginkan rumah yang lebih besar dan kita akan memerlukan lebih banyak duit. Apabila kita perlukan lebih banyak duit, kita terpaksa mengorbankan masa berkuality untuk keluarga dan cara hidup yang sihat.

Kajian menunjukkan, kesihatan dan keluarga yang stable adalah aspek yang amat penting yang menyumbang kepada kebahagiaan seseorang. Dan dua aspek itulah yang selalu orang abaikan dalam mengejar kekayaan.

Fikir-fikirkan lah.

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How Do You See Yourself? Another Elephant Metaphor

2009-10-22T20:49:00.001+08:00

How Do You See Yourself? Another Elephant Metaphor

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How Winning is Done!!!

2009-10-22T10:44:00.001+08:00

But it ain't about how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. . It's How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done.

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Credit: Adam Khoo quoting Rocky Balboa

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The Power Of Decision

2009-10-12T23:40:00.000+08:00

How to create lasting change?
1. Raise my standards
Decide to tolerate no less.

2. Change my limiting beliefs
Decide to stop beleiving that i can't.
Believe that i can and i will meet my higher standards.

3. Change my strategy
Find a role model, someone already getting the results and follow their footstep.
Don't reinvent the wheel.

Lots of people know what to do, but few actually do what they know.
Take actions.

Today, i decided to quit smoking. Truely quit.
Will not smoking for lame excuses anymore.
Will not do it in the name of socializing.
Will not smoking when i'm stress.
Will not use it to channel my frustrations.
I'm 30 and my lung will not take it anymore.

Credit: Anthony Robbins-Awaken the Giant Within

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I am 30

2009-10-07T10:21:00.000+08:00

I'm 30 years old, I should make sound decision regarding personal financial towards financial freedom. Each and every spending should be given some thoughtful consideration in order to avoid digging the holes deeper. Or digging it deeper in order to cover the holes faster as long as it is a sound thoughtful decision.

I am 30. I have to take charge and take responsibility like a grown up man. Not like dependence boy who left the dicisions to be made by somebody else.

I am 30. I have my family as my responsibility. I have to take better care of myself. It always easier to love other people than to love yourself. To take a good care of ourselves. That why more and more people suffering high blood pressure, diabities, heart problem as a result of unhealthy lifestyle just because it difficult to love ourselves. Many people contemplating to invest time, money and energy developing themselves, but every people will spend tens of thousands for the education of their love ones; Their kids.

I am 30 years old.

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Jangan bergerak, klu tidak aku tembakkkk!!!!

2009-09-14T17:00:00.001+08:00

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Resolution Review @ Revisited Sempena Puasa

2009-08-21T07:08:00.001+08:00

It has been half a month after I formulated the resolution.

To exercise: failed. I just play 18 hole golf and two session at the driving range.
Smoking: failed. By trying to be a social smoker really spoilt it.
Debts: business travelling, golf and some company function really make me spending. Sigh. Fortunately, I don't have new gadget in mind.
Surau: just one or two session during lunch time in the office.
Parenting: being away most of the time from home...

Am I worthy of myself? This question make myself feeling down. Being too occupied with work handling all sort of issues really make my life a mess. My former boss used to say 'messy life make us more human, too organize will make us robot'. Excuses! Excuses! Mr Don, wake up. Take charge of your life....
Reaffirm and start again.
I'm not fucking up this time. 'Watch your language man'

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Golf as what JGA sees it….

2009-08-20T17:55:00.001+08:00

Republish from http://www.golfaddix.blogspot.com/... very interesting view from somebody who understand golf.

I have come to get to love to play golf accidentally after watching a friend hitting balls at a driving range. Golf was not even a sport in my opinion at that time, considering I do play hockey, football, rugby and lots of other sports. The driving range was sort of located along side the route which we took to return back to Kemaman. Little that I know out of a sudden I was tempted to hit a few balls and a friend handed me a 7 iron. I was still with my office attires and was surprised to see the first ball that I hit went up and fly. After hitting a few more balls the urge to learn to play the game suddenly come crashing and the rest is history. That was in 1995 and to date has manage to get my handicap consistently at 13 although I did went down to 9 for a brief spell in 2005 and 2006.

Over the years I took up golf with a Teaching pro. No one told me to do that but I am the kind of person who will try to make sure I get the tips from the trained teaching pro rather than bits and pieces from other golfers.

Golf is not about just playing the game. Playing with better golfers, reading golf magazines, watching golfers practice and asking a lot of questions are among others things I did to get my games improved. It is not something we human are born with the skills. But it is more like a system which we human have to learn, get adapted, live with it and have fun.

Moving over, in this part of the world, golf has recently taken some interest of its inhabitants. Is it because some top golfer mum is from Asia, or is it because suddenly Koreans and Japanese golfers are in the top rank players. In Malaysia everyone was thinking of Vijay Singh when he won top medals. How we have missed the best chance to put the country in the world map. But then again, is that the only way to do it? In the past we may not find any Malaysian in any Asian tour neither in any world golf tour anyway. Lo and behold, look around now. We have Danny competing in British Open, we have Airil winning the Pakistan Open and so many others taking titles in the region.

Why golf in Malaysia will take ages to grow?

First of all if you are born with it the rest should just follow suit. But some are not born with such skill. Some are surrounded by the golf fraternity and as they grow older, they became attracted to the game because bosses want you to be seen in the corporate niche group.

Or simply because your friend have been harassing you to play the game for ages.

Or your wife has been quite busy with kids and work and you got nothing else to do at home.

Or you could have sort of giving up on other outdoor or other active indoor sports.

Or it could be a sudden burst of interest to play the game.

Or it could be even god almighty suddenly put a curse on you to play the game and start spending all your earned or saved income to boost the sports industry.

Or some sports body is seriously looking at developing young talents and starts promoting the game at junior level at various golf courses all over the country.

The good thing about the game in this country is that everyone is following suit other successful sports development. Squash, bowling and badminton are some good examples. Over the years I have witnessed kids growing up to pick up the game and some of them are now playing better golf compared to my mere 13 handicap. In most golf clubs patrons have been growing in numbers and almost 75% of their families follow suit.

But is that good enough to push the game?

Two (too…..) many people wants to become leaders in the sport. Did you remember the chaos created by MPGA and other professional golfers recently. Many would have forgotten all about it but I am very sure those professional golfers are badly affected by that incident.

Typical Malaysian, the officials are more important than the athletes. Official dine in hotels and athletes eating noodles in their hotel rooms. The same also goes to Malaysian golf. To add salt to the wounds, professional golfers are being left without proper sanctions or sponsorship and most of them end up working in driving ranges or sports retail outlets to make sure they still can make something in this world.

Thirdly, typically we Malaysians eat somewhat lavish foods most Europeans or other nations are not familiar with. But most of all, we have a lot to eat. The question is do our athletes have proper nutrients. Come to think of it, does playing golf really need proper diet? But playing golf with an empty stomach can be very tiring though.

Is golf an interesting game to play? Out of 24 million people in this country, I am not sure we even have half of them who understand what the game is all about. It is still a game where people associate with high income earner group. But not many realized that the game is building up its momentum. But still, the marketing part of making golf a popular sports in this country is still not at its even minimum level.

How many actually read golf news on the net? How many people browse golf websites? Or even how many people even actually bother to know the existence of professional golfers in this country. Look at MPGA. Look at the conditions of their office. A mere location in Desa Pandan (I come to know this because I live quite close to that area a long time ago).

Junior golfers in this country are developed to have an interest to play the game or some of them were forced to love the game. I have seen parents sending their kids to driving ranges. Some of those kids are patient enough to learn how to hit a small golf ball. Some are sitting there on the driving mat thinking why he has to make an effort to hit the ball when he can just use his hands and throw it wherever he want. Others might be sitting there crying, while some can be there munching their sweet while parents sweating it out hitting balls endlessly, hoping their children will learn to love it too.

Proper guidance is the fifth element why golf will take ages to grow in this country. How many of us are willing to spend the time to sit down with our son or daughter and taught them all they have to know about playing golf. How many parents actually know how to play golf? Or how many parents actually know everything about golf anyway.

If you look at those American or European golfers, most of them have their parents to thank for making the time to provide that proper guidance for them to grow and play golf professionally. But parents in this country are beginning to do the same. The only problem we don't have enough parents to do that.

Income earned is our sixth element. Golf is still predominantly dominated by well earned income group. A lot of us Asians will not spend money on playing golf if they don't have enough income to support the basic need in their home. Many still feel they would rather send sms to various live shows to promote the music industry. Don't ask me to name them because I am simply get irritated with people who support them through sms votings.

The game however has become affordable recently. But then again it depend on how much do you spend and how do you spend it. Golf equipments can be in ranges at RM200 to RM20,000. Second hand golf equipments are actually good items for golf beginners. There are affordable basic driving ranges throughout the country. If you can't pay RM15 for 100 balls, you may choose to pay RM8 for 100 balls at another driving range.

If you can't afford to pay RM250 for a round of golf, you may choose to pay RM70 for a round of golf at Kundang Lake near Kuang. Plus there are a number of golf packages which actually provides discounts on green fees and also provides reciprocal golf clubs which allows you to play at various golf clubs for a discounted fee. (I won't mention their identity because I am not paid to say that).

Seven. Is there enough facilities readily available for all golfers in all over Malaysia? Is the golf industry getting enough incentives so that investors can build more golf clubs, more public golf courses, more driving ranges, more teaching academy and more people to be involved in the industry. Is there enough corporate memberships where companies can promote their staff to take up the game? And actually promote healthy sports among those stressed out executives who endlessly spend long hours at office and some beyond working days.

Symptom no 8 is really got to with what people understand what golf can contribute as a sport in this country. It is how you approach your introduction to the game. A person can get to understand golf in his career simply because he works in a golf club. Even still that does not warrant him to understand fully what golf can give to the community. In this part of the world, so much has been organized to make golf tournament more fun. Some organized a charity sort of golf tournament. Some do it for the sake of giving farewell games to a leaving colleague. Some even come up with golf website. Some make golf jokes as ice breaker in the office. Some even uses golf as a platform to get to know more about others. Some use it to get away from home. Whatever the purpose those golfers plays golf, one could not forget its contribution the country economy.

Look at the number of Singaporeans driving up to JB in the wee morning to catch up with some golf games. Likewise, look at the influx of Japanese and Koreans into Sabah and Kuala Lumpur golf courses. Unlike if we observe the states up north in Penang, Perlis, Kedah, Kelantan or Terengganu. Unfortunately the trend is the other way around. Many choose to drive to Thailand to play there. I wonder why???

Kids learning how to play golf as symptom no 9. Dragging them to the driving range can be either as easy as bringing them to the zoo or it can be as though as waking them up for school. If those kids understand golf like Ben 10, I am pretty sure they might be right at the front door whenever you mention your intend to go to the driving range.

Last but not least, lets us look at ourselves as Malaysians. We tend to look up to something before we start pursuing our dreams. Look at how Koreans ladies making up the numbers in LPGA events. If you observe carefully, they are almost as high as more than 70% of the players in the field. How about Asians events? Can we contribute that numbers in terms of developing our boys and girls to the Asian tour?

Malaysian Boleh I guess…..why not?

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Don da Pantaier's

Swinging and Putting

2009-08-18T16:08:00.000+08:00

Let the game begin. Start playing golf again.
Scored badly at 133 stroke.
Darn. Need to work my swing and definitely the short game.
Lot more to do.
Looking forward for it.
Reading the Tiger's 'How I Play' book. Hopefully can get some insight to it.
Competing the resource for golfing now. Time, energy and definitely money. Have to manage it since I have the passion in this. But the requirement is high to my standard. Whole day is considered gone for one round of 18 holes game. Definitely one day from the weekend not spend with my kids. With the new assignment, and more and more datelines, it hard to get off early from office. When I got home, exhausted, the kids already sleeping. Maybe I need to be more organized and plan my time properly so I can find some time to allocate for them.
Sigh.

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Doodles Bob

2009-08-14T20:16:00.001+08:00

Research show that people who doodles can get more compared to those who don't. The reason is because people who doodles can managed to be there body and mind. People who don't have some difficulty to be present. Hehehe. Doodling in class justified. But the test result after each session show that I can score more than the rest at my table. The question now is 'is it because of the doodling thing or the subject are more related to me compared to the rest at my table?' mmmmmm...

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Doodles

2009-08-14T17:31:00.000+08:00

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By pen... Quick one

2009-08-14T17:29:00.001+08:00

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It’s My 30th Birthday (the longest posting)

2009-07-31T16:36:00.001+08:00

I have the intention to make this posting as the longest post with the most word 'long' in it. It will also take the longest time I ever take to complete a blog posting as my intention is to publish it here on my next birthday. I will also take the initiative to edit this posting properly, with longest time I ever take in editing a blog posting.

It will be the 30^th and I will be 30 years old by this 31^st July 2009. Can I consider it as entering the next threshold? Many people will start looking back at their life at this point. So at this point, I'm counting the mistake I made and the mistake I didn't make; the opportunities that I grabbed and the opportunities that I let go; the moments that I had and the moment that I wish I had; and ultimate question to ponder when entering 30 is 'am I feel worthy of myself at this age'.

Quoting Lincoln:

"It is easy to make a man miserable while he feels he is unworthy of himself and not good enough to claim kindred to the great God who made him."

I have been put my golfing activity on K.I.V. for quite sometime as I have to prioritize my resource to more important thing. Lately, I don't spend enough time with my family due to high demanding job. It make me feel guilty to take away another day during weekend from them for golfing. I think it a fair trade. However, with more and more people in my office taking up golf and they start to make it monthly department activity called 'Golf Monthly Medal', I'm kind of left out. So I have to adjust few thing and hope for some changes in my routine life before I can take it up again and join my colleagues in golfing.

I have picked up a new hobby recently. It is 'Pencil drawing' focusing on portrait. Looking back at my hobby that I tried before, I think I can go far with this one. I've tried to learn to play guitar somewhere in 2005. However, without proper guidance couple with tone deaf, I abandoned that hobby and the used guitar that I bought few weeks after that. Recently, one of my colleagues bought that old guitar for her daughter.

I like to be a good writer, inspired by the Latin phrases 'Docendo disco, scribendo cogito: I learn by teaching, think by writing' and I always inspired by a good pieces wrote by bloggers. Good writing skills also can carry us far in career. But for some reason I didn't managed to put enough effort to be a good writer. Usually I ended up writing crab with limited vocabulary and lots of grammatical error.

I'm also interested in photography. In photography, I managed to snap some pictures that I consider great shot with Cybershot mobile phone (Sony Ericsson K800i). I don't like to carry a heavy bulky DSLR camera and all its accessories and don't have enough budget to allocate for getting it. And now I also not using that Cybershot phone that can take a considerable good picture. Now I limited my interest in photography to only admire other hardcore photographer's pictures.

With this pencil drawing, I found some passion in it. A few weeks ago, while surfing the internet, I found out about this pencil drawing. And by reading some guide and little on-line training, I managed to come out with some good piece of caricature. After a few trial, and some further reading on this matter, I decided to focus on drawing portrait. To date, I managed to draw my twin sons face that actually looked like them. Even my two years old sons can recognize their face in that drawing.

Financially, I'm still in the 'developing country' mode where I have to live with deficit in income versus expenses book. Approaching 30, I'm determined to improve the situation by giving a serious attention to get rid of bad debts and just maintain the property and car loans only. I have no choice but to be prepared for my kid's education. It's very important to be able to provide good education to them.

The resolution:

Quit Smokin'
Exercise at least 20 minutes per session, 3 times a week
More effort to be a good parent
Stop tambah hutang.
Smile more, laugh more…
Dah tua dah nih... kene belajar gi surau nih...

p/s: tak panjang pon, tak proper pon… sbb dok sibuk ngan problem kerja, combating issues at situation at work. It been a tough week. Sampai demam semalam. tak sempat nak edit pe dah. Publish je lah jugak.

Thank you for the friends who remember and care to wish.

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Don da Pantaier's

In A Fantasy World

2009-07-22T23:07:00.000+08:00

Sometime somewhere somebody like the fantasy world better than the reality where there's always a happy ending for every story. And they live happily ever after.
Just thinking, is it a sin to commit a crime in our fantasy? Of course we won't get convicted doing that. But is it a sin?
Do we have to repent after commiting such crime or it over when we get back into reality?
Being in love in the fantasy world can make us feel a love that free from the reality in love. Love always come with it complexity, responsibility, expectation and what not. But in fantasy, we can always enjoy the love in any way we like and live happily ever after.

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Adam

2009-07-21T19:48:00.001+08:00

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Azfar

2009-07-21T18:00:00.001+08:00

First attemp to draw my son's face. Lepas ni target to draw my another son plak.

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Pencil Drawing Today

2009-07-21T00:00:00.000+08:00

Today, i draw his face again... The outcome looked better... But i think it still hard to recognize him in this drawing...

Huhu...

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Poem: A Cup of Coffee

2009-07-20T10:07:00.001+08:00

Secawan kopi
Sebulan sekali
Mengisi ruang hati
Menjadi penawar
Dari termangu sendiri

Hangat terasa
Menerangi minda
Menjana idea
Menyerap rasa

Spent the weekend with my family most of the time at home. Went to my in laws new house. A nice apartment. But plan to rent it out.

Got some weeding. But didn't go to that. Don't know why. Kinda forgot it until the last minute.

The kids is kinda fine. Getting smarter and demanding. Fighting all the time. But it fine with me. Made my day with their cuteness and naughtiness.

Waiting for the new laptop. Purchase online. Got an sms saying that it will be delivered today. Waiting for it. It's for her. Not for me. I'm fine with my office laptop. Rarely use it outside office nowadays. Kinda occupied with non on line way of life. The kids, the chores and resting. Kinda restless.

My pencil drawing hobby is getting some improvement. Managed to draw her face that looked quite like her. But sometime I really into it. But some other time, I have to push myself to draw. Like the biscuit passion of "kejap ader, kejap takde". Magic.

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Pencil Drawing - Newly discovered hobby

2009-07-16T09:46:00.001+08:00

My first few pieces.

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Is There New Year's Eve Celebration In Kazakhtan

2009-07-14T22:21:00.000+08:00

Never say goodbye. My Girl OST (a twisted lyrics)

Yeah it a brand new classic about a guy and a hot girl. We build this love story together, and I'm still in love with you. Even though we never been to Kazakhtan or any other country together, but we clap over every small little moments we managed to have and we always 1,2,3,4 got the mic checked.

You always the best thing I have, no need to stress but nevertheless I occationally put some effort to make you feel that and you also always not to let me down.

Keep it up keep it up, let cherish this little love we have while we keep ourselves tight with hectic daily routines.

Only you only you, don't you go away, don't you make me cry.

One Miserable Me

2009-07-14T17:46:00.001+08:00

1. I have been away from office for about a week as I was on leave and continued with business traveling. I just got back into office after attended a training conducted in a hotel nearby.

2. That when I found out that the docking of my laptop together with the keyboard is gone. It turn out that the admin has collected them without any notice, to be returned as leasing on that equipment have expired. Owh darn, I have to carry that laptop charger everyday to work. I also have to assemble to stuff together every morning, plug in the mouse, the power cord and whatsoever, I have to admit that it make me feel miserable. With the convenience I have been enjoyed over the years with that equipment, today, when doing some e-mailing, I'm feeling so weird and awkward and very miserable to live without those stuff.

3. I think and I do feel that the existence of the admin staff in a company is to provide convenience to the staff so they can be more focus on running the business and contribute to the growth of the company value. And this time they did make me miserable. Yeah right. What the heck is I'm doing now??? Blogging. How on earth blogging can contribute to the growth of the company value???

4. So, all I can say now is "Don, get over it. Life goes on".

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Kolej Kelima University Malaya

2009-07-04T07:15:00.000+08:00

Pada hari ahad yang lepas, saya telah pergi ke Universiti Malaya bagi membantu anak saudara saya mendaftar kolej di sana.
Layanan dan bantuan yang disediakan membantu keseluruhan proses pendaftaran tersebut. Proses tersebut telah berjalan dengan lancar.
Pihak pengurusan kolej juga mengambil inisiatif untuk memberi taklimat kepada ibu bapa sewaktu mahasiswa melalui proses pendaftaran. Penerangan tersebut berkesan dalam memberi sedikit gambaran tentang kehidupan kolej dan menjawab kemusykilan ibu bapa terutama tentang yuran dan pinjaman pelajaran.
Dari taklimat tersebut, saya juga mendapat tahu bahawa Universiti Malaya mempunyai kolej yang menawarkan makan di dewan macam di uitm atau asrama sekolah menengah. Mahasiswa dapat menikmati makanan pada harga yang jauh lebih murah.

Tips Kesihatan

2009-06-30T17:55:00.001+08:00

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Untuk diarrhoea, ia tidak sepatutnya diubati dengan ubatan komersial, gunakan 100 plus. Sama ada diminum terus atau dicampur air biasa dalam kuantiti 1:1 dengan frequent dose diberi kepada pesakit.

Untuk muscle cramp, ia disebabkan kekurangan garam atau air. Urut perlahan dengan cream panas, dan bagi minum 100 plus.

100 plus juga bagus untuk demam biasa, dan untuk demam denggi pun doktor akan cadangkan minum 100 plus banyak-banyak.

Jika di luar negara, isotonic drink ini termasuk dalam bekas first-aid mereka. Saya biasa minum 100 plus apabila saya berkerja kuat dengan maksud banyak menggerakkan badan dan berjalan. Saya hanya minum bila rasa sangat penat dan perlukan tenaga segera untuk kekal aktif meneruskan kerja-kerja seterusnya.

Biasanya sebotol kecil sudah lebih dari cukup bagi saya, but there's a time during I-QUEST 08 where I asked a friend to find me a bottle of 100 plus, but end up he gave me one large bottle and I manage to finish it within half an hour. Biasanya setengah jam itu untuk sebotol kecil. Mungkin sebab orang dah bagi botol besar, minum jelah tanpa sedar sebab sedang ralit dengan kerja-kerja.

Pesanan khas:

Jangan amalkan asyik amik panadol setiap kali rasa sakit. Panadol adalah pain killer, makin banyak kita ambil panadol, makin menurun kite punya daya tahan kepada kesakitan.

Sebagai contoh, wanita. Kalau yang muda-muda, dah biasa amalkan ambil panadol, later in life bila nak melahirkan bayi, bius biasa cenderung untuk tidak memberi sebarang kesan sebab badan dah penuh dengan panadol. Bila badan sudah terbiasa dengan pain killer, jadi kamu akan memerlukan bius yang lebih berbanding mereka-mereka yang jarang atau tidak mengambil panadol.

Panadol adalah toxic kepada badan, sekurang-kurang ia akan reside dalam badan selama 5 tahun. Ada je kes-kes di usia 30-an dah mula kena dialisis buah pinggang sebab kerap ambil panadol. Kalau di luar negara mereka memang ada ambil database pesakit yang medical history nye begini.

This is my tips for you, to increase your endurance level towards pain. Ini kesakitan yang membuatkan anda cenderung ambil panadol, paracetamol dan adik beradik die.

Ini berdasarkan pengalaman sendiri, walau bagaimanapun ia bergantung kepada setiap individu.
Bila rasa sakit, cuba untuk bertahan. Terutama sakit-sakit biasa. Macam pening kepala, migrain, menstrual pain dan sebagainya. Jika tidak tahan, berbaring lah dan tidur. Owh petua ini tidak berkesan untuk saya, saya sukar tidur! :D

Jadi biasanya saya akan buat kerja-kerja yang akan alihkan tumpuan saya kepada kesakitan seperti designing, berjalan-jalan, angkat barang, kerja persatuan dsb. Saya akan cuba untuk sibukkan diri.

Owh jika cuba untuk revise pada waktu sebegini, memang langsung tidak menjadi kerana fokus anda telah teralih kepada kesakitan. Jadi buatlah kerja-kerja lain yang kamu rasa patut dan okay, terutama sekali non-academic of course.

Jika mahu lakuan sesuatu kepada kesakitan, cuba gunakan home remedy seperti urutan, hot cream, ice bag dan sebagainya pada tempat sakit. Minum 100 plus untuk sakit yang berkaitan juga boleh seperti yang dinyatakan awal tadi.

Jika kamu berada di tahap sakit sangat-sangat sakit, bolehlah ambil ubatan yang di bawah kategori NSAID (non steroidal anti inflammatory drug). Contoh macam sakit gigi, menstrual pain, joint pain dan sebagainya. Antara contoh NSAID adalah synflex dan arcoxia.

Boleh ambil ubat di farmasi sahaja atau dengan preskripsi doktor. Sesetengah farmasi yang well known seperti Watson dan Guardian, mereka agak restrict pada pemberian ubat ini dan memerlukan preskripsi dari doktor. Jika di farmasi biasa mereka biasanya akan bagi sahaja jika kita minta ubat-ubatan ini.

Perlu diingatkan, lebih baik jika kamu mendapatkan konsultasi daripada ahli farmasi di farmasi tersebut atau padangan doktor sendiri melainkan jika kamu memang sudah biasa dengan jenis-jenis ubat. NSAID bukan untuk diambil sesuka hati, tetapi HANYA apabila terlampau sakit sahaja dan biasanya HANYA sebiji sehari untuk beberapa hari cuma. Pengambilan ubat over the counter ini sepatutnya perlu handle with care untuk mengelakkan salah guna atau overdose.

Untuk migraine, rasanya ini paling common dalam masyarakat. Migraine setakat ini yang saya jumpa, cafergot dapat membantu. Ia agak unik, kerana fungsinya adalah mengelakkan sakit kepala dan bukan mengubati sakit kepala yang sedia ada. Jadi ia dimakan tika terasa seperti hendak sakit kepala. Jika sudah migraine teruk dan baru hendak ambil cafergot, harap maaf lah jawapannya.

Saya tidak cadangkan kamu ambil cafergot, tapi saya pinta kamu minta konsultasi doktor, ubat apa yang sesuai untuk migraine kamu. Penerangan di atas sekadar untuk kamu faham bagaimana biasanya ubat migraine berfungsi. Kerana ramai yang berfikir ubat migraine tidak berkesan, sedangkan mereka ambil ubat itu tika sakit sudah kuat. Ramai doktor yang tidak berpesan kepada pesakit tentang pengambilan ubat yang betul bagi sesetengah ubat. Dan ramai juga pesakit yang teringatkan ubat ini hanya apabila kesakitan sudah tahap teruk.

Untuk diri saya sendiri, saya lebih memilih untuk bertahan dengan kesakitan daripada mengambil ubat. Jadi semakin hari daya tahan diri saya pada kesakitan semakin meningkat. Jika saya sakit kepala atau migraine, saya rasa ia perkara biasa. Seperti sudah immune. Saya masih boleh teruskan aktiviti harian.

Mungkin kerana itu, 2-3 jam selepas prosedur mengambil air tulang belakang (lumbar puncture) sebelum ini, saya sudah minta untuk keluar ward dan malamnya saya terus boleh hadiri majlis. Mungkin kerana itu juga saya tidak minta ubat tahan sakit selepas surgery. Mungkin kerana itu saya masih boleh teruskan pelbagai aktiviti lain ketika sakit kuat, kecuali untuk ulangkaji pelajaran, ia agak terganggu. Boleh je, tapi hanya sekadarnya itupun selepas pemaksaan diri dan kekejaman tahap tinggi.

Pesanan penaja untuk hari ini, hargai hidup anda, fikir dulu sebelum kerap amalkan pengambilan panadol/paracetamol yang sangat familiar dengan kehidupan seharian kita itu. Cuba untuk bertahan, lama-kelamaan akan jadi 'alah bisa tegal biasa'. Malaysia boleh!

Cekgu yang memberi pengesahan:
1. Ganong, WF Review of Medical Physiology, 13th ed. Norwalk, CT Appleton & Lange, 1987.
2. Journal of Pharmaceutical Sciences
3. www.myhealth.gov.my
4. banyak banyak lagi tak larat nak state :D

amaran: Entry ini lebih merujuk kepada golongan remaja dan young adult. Ia hanyalah pandangan daripada pengalaman sendiri dan pembacaan lebih 6 tahun. Bukan sebagai seorang yang ahli dalam bidang ini. Sila dapatkan pengesahan pakar-pakar tentang entri ini :)

update:
Ada sesetengah orang allergy kepada paracetamol/panadol, NSAID dan aspirin. Ini sikit sekadar apa yang saya tahu. Tak silap saya, allergy jenis ini hanya akan tahu bila mereka consume ubatan ni. Sebab itu sesetengah parents yang mengetahui, tidak akan langsung benarkan anak mereka mengambil ubatan ini. Jadi, untuk mengelakkan shock or further adverse reaction, rawatan segera haruslah diberikan apabila munculnya tanda-tanda allergy seperti kemerahan pada kulit, gatal-gatal pada mata hidung tekak, conjunctivitis etc2.

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Don da Pantaier's

I'm Not Feeling The Love Here, Danny

2009-06-26T16:16:00.001+08:00

As the title suggest, I don't feel the love here. Then I realized, love is something that we can only give, it not something we can ask, demand or beg.

I don't know whether I still have any reader here like I used to have a few regular before. Then I also realized that when was the last time I give the love to other people's blog. Even though I do visit their blog, I never leave any comment.

That how I got the regular reader before. I show the love to others. Leave them some comments. And they love back. And if we got some brilliant idea and update regularly, they become regular.

But there's still some restriction for me to do it. My current internet connection is still not sufficient. Only good to read.

Now got some improvement. Can only post to my blog. Still cannot edit. Or delete. So I have to live with any grammatical or spelling error.

The shit is almost done... Highly likely that I will have my weekend. But it will be dedicated to the niece and nephew from kampung.

P.S. About the image above, it is from the internet. Hopefully I'm not violating anybody's copyright. Just to show my new interest. Photography is the past. Gaming is the past. Golfing is on hold. Now is the pencil drawing... When will I be able to draw like that???

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Don da Pantaier's

Merry Merry Merrier!!!

2009-06-26T08:42:00.001+08:00

In baju melayu, in some blue color, listening to metallica on the sony walkman, in quite long queue, going into a very very crowded train, blogging through e-mail from mobile phone while thinking about my other half and my precious and my sisters and my niece and my nephew whose coming from kampung today. Can we call it multitasking? Or only light multithinking?
Had some nice nasi lemak at Mali's corner in Taman Bunga Raya last night. One of the favorite spot of my sister in law's husband. Or my wife's brother in law? Or there is other word for 'biras', or what Ahmad Albab's father called 'beras'? There is? Or there isn't?
Whatever it is, thank god its Friday... OMG!!! It's Friday... Hope the shit settled today, so I can have the weekend.

Knowing What You Want

2009-06-25T20:28:00.001+08:00

If we choose a car over a motocycle for safety and comfort reason, we got traffic jam, higher cost for fuel and parking. Significantly higher at about 400 percent, depending on location and distance.
If we choose to work in urban area instead of rural area for better pay and career development opportunity, we also got hectic demanding life style, higher cost of living and busy crowded environment.
If we choose a smart, graduate, good looking career woman over a naive dependent obey to what you said girl, we got someone who might outsmart us and earning more than us and possessed higher power in the relationship.
If we choose to stay with our parent for cheap or no rental, we got our freedom been limited.
Whatever it is, you what we want, go for it, and deal with the bad side of it. Expect the worse, so we'll always end up getting better than what we expect. Sound safe huh? Yeah. Maybe on certain aspect in life, we should play it safe and go for the challenge on some others.
Just waiting the lrt crap without putting much thought into it.

Early Early Earlier!!!

2009-06-25T08:33:00.001+08:00

In the train on the way to work today, i saw stressful faces of the commuter queuing for the train. I can understand that. Waiting in line for the train. The queue moving very slow. Only one or two people can board at one train. The rest have to wait for another train.

Some of them worrying about the punch card will be red. Some bothering about boarding the crowded, very very crowded train. Some thinking about their kids left with the maids. And some worry about when can we come out from this rat race. And some just stress to wake up early in the morning.

No wonder I spent so much money on gadgets.

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Don da Pantaier's

Late Late Later!!!

2009-06-24T09:06:00.001+08:00

I'm wondering why when more and more companies in the world and in
Malaysia adopting flexible working hours as well as the flexibility to
work from home, have company start imposing time tracking and rigid
working hours.
With the technology that we currently have like mobile phone, im on
the phone, round the clock e-mail access though mobile phone; even
office e-mail, we are force to work where ever we are. We are carrying
the work load.
It cannot be like the old time anymore. Where we can left all the load
when we are out from the office door. We compromise the quality family
time as well as the time for ourself.
Being me, kind of comply instead of complaint, i just try to comply
and looking at the positive side of it. Maybe there something good
about it that i'm not capable to see.
My two cents.

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Sent from my mobile device

Don da Pantaier's

testing again.

2009-06-24T00:46:00.001+08:00

Testing to post using mobile gmail application. Just download and install it.
I've tried to configure nokia automatic gmail configuration on my E71.
It seem like i didn't manage to get the outgoing server setting right.
It just didn't go out. And i don't put any effort to get it right. Why
ah?
This application, like other application on my mobile phone that need
internet connection, keep getting disconnected. Only exchange server
application and nokia web browser seem to have stable connection. Why
ah?
Anyway, if this one worked, i can start blogging on the go via e-mail again.

On 6/12/09, Don <pantaier@gmail.com> wrote:
> Inspired by Zee Avi - Kantoi + He's just not into you
>
> I kata for me to be happy, I need you to be happy.You kata you are very
> happy being with me. But when I see you, you don't always looks happy.
> I rasa I love you and I rasa that I will do anything for you. Tapi
> kadang-kadang or selalu eh??? I don't look like doing anything that you
> like me to do and seem like I didn't care about you.
>
> Semalam I duduk sorang-sorang, watching movies at home. I tengok cerita
> ini 'He's just not into you'. Its all about relationship not like the
> fairy tale one tapi more on the reality of the rerationship. Cerita tu
> shows why marriages sucks. Relationship, the fires that burns faded
> bila when the relationship go the phase after few years of marriages.
>
> Kadang-kadang we demand on thing that we want. And we forget about
> things that we need in a relationship that we always get. And sometimes
> we become selfish and only thing about ourself instead of our other
> half. Bila kita dah very busy, dengan rutin harian yang demanding and
> make us really exhausted and stressful. Sometimes we hurt our feeling
> and her feeling.
>
> Tapi kadang-kadang sayang kita spend some little quality time together.
> We talk and talk from our heart. And we know that we deeply love each
> other and we need each other.
>
> Watching that movies reminded me how lucky I am to have you and your
> love. And how you being a matured girl and don't try to change me like
> many others do. Make me see why lot of passion in relationship that
> really burning at early stage faded after sometimes.
>
> Guys need something, girls need something. How we compromise on
> little-little thing really make a different in relationship.
>
> Tapi I kata macam dalam movie tu. Selalunya dating is overrated and the
> culture make us fell like there something wrong with us if we didn't
> get involve in it. And the values in that movies is more toward the
> western values. While I kata, we have our own culture and values that
> bigger than just that. We can learn something from that and we use our
> own values on how to take it.So I will kata that as long as we fullfill
> our responsibility, we put effort every once in a while in between our
> tight, busy and stressful daily routine life, to have some quality time
> together, enjoy our companion, and never forget the bless we have in
> our relationship, we'll be fine. One more important thing I will kata
> is remember our ultimate goal of life. Hidup ini sementara and we all
> will be in the afterlife. The eternity. What we do now must be in line
> with the afterlife. I think we will remain faithful and being
> responsible other half to each other and taking good care to our family.
>
> Semalam and hari ni I miss you so much and need you to be around.
>
>
>
>
> Kantoi - Zee Avi
>
>
> Semalam I call you, you tak answer
> You kata you keluar - 'Pergi dinner'
> You kata you keluar dengan kawan you
> But when I call Tommy, he said it wasn't true
> So I drove my car pergi Damansara
> Tommy kata maybe you tengok bola
> Tapi bila I sampai you - you tak ada
> Lagilah I jadi gila
>
> So I call and call sampai you answer
> You kata 'Sorry sayang, tadi tak dengar'
> 'My phone was on silent - I was at the gym'
> Tapi latar belakang suara perempuan lain
>
> Sudahlah sayang I don't believe you
> For it's known that that your words were never true
> Why am I with u - I pun tak tahu
> No wonderlah my friends pun tak suka you
>
> So I guess that's the end of our story
> Akhir kata, she accepted his apology
> Tapi last last kita dapat tahu she was cheating too
> With her ex-boyfriend's best friend – Tommy
>
> --
> Don da Pantaier's
>
>
> --
> Posted By Don to Kisah Cinta Utara (Northern Love Stories) at 6/12/2009
> 08:09:00 PM

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Don da Pantaier's

The Emptiness Flows

2009-06-16T11:25:00.001+08:00

The emptiness flows

Into my heart and soul

Streams of love follows

Thinking of you though

Days without you

Left me with no desires

Eatin' without feelin'

The taste of food

Tried to fill me with the line

The line that can buy me time

The time to pass by

So the empty days get pass me

Unnoticed

And I ran out of it…

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Don da Pantaier's

The Gorgeous Babe (Big Boy's Toy) The Next Wish List.

2009-06-15T18:29:00.001+08:00

Superb Performance, Comfort and Safety and looks. It has it all.

Gorgeous according to dictionary is 'Resplendently beautiful'.

A New Generation of Fantastic Sport
Lancer has returned, sleeker, stronger, better. The new Lancer is Mitsubishi Motors answer to all that is tired and cliche about sports sedans. Featuring a bold design surrounding a heart as agile as it is powerful, the Lancer's entrance is anything but tentative. Place your hand on the hood, and you may still hear the echoes of the rally.

There not much words available to describe the performance of this babe. Once she has spoken to you, you'll understand.
There also not much words available in my vocabulary to describe the looks of this babe. She just catch your eyes and struck straight to your heart and stays in your mind.
I also not sure whether there words to describe the comfort to be in her. I guess we have to try her and just feel the excitement, then only we can tell.
The price is also within range. At about RM120K.

So I guess it not much to put her in my wish list.
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Don da Pantaier's

Relationships

2009-06-12T20:09:00.001+08:00

Inspired by Zee Avi - Kantoi + He's just not into you

I kata for me to be happy, I need you to be happy.You kata you are very happy being with me. But when I see you, you don't always looks happy. I rasa I love you and I rasa that I will do anything for you. Tapi kadang-kadang or selalu eh??? I don't look like doing anything that you like me to do and seem like I didn't care about you.

Semalam I duduk sorang-sorang, watching movies at home. I tengok cerita ini 'He's just not into you'. Its all about relationship not like the fairy tale one tapi more on the reality of the rerationship. Cerita tu shows why marriages sucks. Relationship, the fires that burns faded bila when the relationship go the phase after few years of marriages.

Kadang-kadang we demand on thing that we want. And we forget about things that we need in a relationship that we always get. And sometimes we become selfish and only thing about ourself instead of our other half. Bila kita dah very busy, dengan rutin harian yang demanding and make us really exhausted and stressful. Sometimes we hurt our feeling and her feeling.

Tapi kadang-kadang sayang kita spend some little quality time together. We talk and talk from our heart. And we know that we deeply love each other and we need each other.

Watching that movies reminded me how lucky I am to have you and your love. And how you being a matured girl and don't try to change me like many others do. Make me see why lot of passion in relationship that really burning at early stage faded after sometimes.

Guys need something, girls need something. How we compromise on little-little thing really make a different in relationship.

Tapi I kata macam dalam movie tu. Selalunya dating is overrated and the culture make us fell like there something wrong with us if we didn't get involve in it. And the values in that movies is more toward the western values. While I kata, we have our own culture and values that bigger than just that. We can learn something from that and we use our own values on how to take it.So I will kata that as long as we fullfill our responsibility, we put effort every once in a while in between our tight, busy and stressful daily routine life, to have some quality time together, enjoy our companion, and never forget the bless we have in our relationship, we'll be fine. One more important thing I will kata is remember our ultimate goal of life. Hidup ini sementara and we all will be in the afterlife. The eternity. What we do now must be in line with the afterlife. I think we will remain faithful and being responsible other half to each other and taking good care to our family.

Semalam and hari ni I miss you so much and need you to be around.

Kantoi - Zee Avi

Semalam I call you, you tak answer
You kata you keluar - 'Pergi dinner'
You kata you keluar dengan kawan you
But when I call Tommy, he said it wasn't true
So I drove my car pergi Damansara
Tommy kata maybe you tengok bola
Tapi bila I sampai you - you tak ada
Lagilah I jadi gila

So I call and call sampai you answer
You kata 'Sorry sayang, tadi tak dengar'
'My phone was on silent - I was at the gym'
Tapi latar belakang suara perempuan lain

Sudahlah sayang I don't believe you
For it's known that that your words were never true
Why am I with u - I pun tak tahu
No wonderlah my friends pun tak suka you

So I guess that's the end of our story
Akhir kata, she accepted his apology
Tapi last last kita dapat tahu she was cheating too
With her ex-boyfriend's best friend – Tommy

--
Don da Pantaier's

The Creature, The Conversation and The Incompatible Roommate

2009-06-10T16:35:00.001+08:00

Sketched something before I fall asleep while the roommate is already in his dreamworld.

When I back late night the next day, I saw a note beside the sketch. So I just reply the note, put it back then and went to sleep.

Sketched another one in the next day.

Maybe I have to look for more compatible roommate next year to avoid disturbing his sleep when I come back late like this.

Maybe can opt for a smoking room.

Anyway, incompatibility also have the good side of it. A positive person will always get the best out of everything and anything.

--
Don da Pantaier's

The Art of Photography

2009-06-10T16:20:00.002+08:00

Great views and angle are everywhere. Just around the corner. From the balcony while enjoying sunrise... Or sunset? Don't remember.

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Don da Pantaier's

One Happy Delegate and One Happy Me!!!

2009-06-10T16:12:00.002+08:00

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Just finish a conference. Overall it went smooth without any major hiccups. And the food is way better this year.

One delegate lost his mobile phone during lunch. And we manage to find the phone and return it to him within two hours. Glad to see his happy face and i'm sure he will come again next year. Maybe.

One happy me. I just realized that i forgot my mobile phone charger in the hotel room at around 12.15 AM when the battery weak. I called the hotel straight away and the helpful lady operator of Traders Hotel Kuala Lumpur managed to locate it at the lost and found counter within few minutes. And I collected the charger this morning in good condition.

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Don da Pantaier's

The Purest Loves

2009-06-02T14:29:00.001+08:00

I love you. It's not a weight you must carry around. I love you. It's not a box that holds you in. I love you. It's not a standard you have to bear. I love you. It's not a sacrifice I make. I love you. It's not a pedestal you are frozen upon. I love you. It's not an expectation of perfection. I love you. It's not my life's whole purpose (or your's). I love you. It's not to make you change. I love you. It's not even to make you love me. I love you. It's as pure and simple as that.

Anonymous
//

1. Pure love is simple. It is a giving without expecting anything in return. It is praying for the best for her even she is giving us the hard time. It about smiling to her and give her warm hug when she is nagging us. Is it simple??? Sound very hard.

2. Hearts with pure love are more open for understanding to the other side. We will have more willingness to put ourselves in the other people shoes. Better understanding of the burden and difficulties will give us a clear picture on the opposite sex differences. And maybe solution to relationships problems.

3. We need to be lucky to be blessed with pure loves. Most people only have the pure love from their parent. While some of us only have that bless for few years in live before losing their parent. And some still blind to see the bless of having their parent around and ignoring them for various reasons.

4. Our role in life and role in love is to count that bless and be thankful for it. And put effort, time, energy to keep the bless.

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Don da Pantaier's

The Twins

2009-06-01T13:47:00.004+08:00

It has been sometime from my last update. I can only upload some pictures of the twins and can't think of any words for it. Since a pictures already like a thousand words, there are few thousands words below already. hehehe.

The kids are smarter and active with a lot of new things everyday.

Happy Third Anniversary (Belated Posting)

2009-04-11T08:39:00.003+08:00

On the eight of April 2009, we celebrated our third anniversary of our marriage.

Met her in 2002 on the first day we report duty as industrial training staff in Finance and Fund Department, University Technology PETRONAS, Tronoh, Perak. What I still remember during that time is I really like the way she carry herself and the way she laugh. I really trying to do things to make her laugh everyday. Can't see that laughter anymore since she already grown up. And now I have all the memories with me that thinking about it make me smile.

Within three years of marriage, we have been blessed with twin boys. Already two years old last February. Needless to say anything about those adorable kids.

We still learning about each other and we always put the efforts to get the best out of this marriages. At times, we lost focus, slide off the track and forget what really matters in life. But we always get back before its too late. Sometimes we forget how simple gestures and little care can carry us far in relationship. But when we be reminded by something (books we read or some event), we bring it back and the love meter goes up again.

What else to say, three years of marriages, a lot more years to go. All I have to do is treasure every moments we have and be thankful for all the blesses showered to me and hoping for the best. For me, for her, for the kids.

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Republished As A Reminder To Myself

2009-04-07T17:28:00.001+08:00

Picture taken from internet

too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like - Will Smith

Letter from Lee Kuan Yew's Daughter

SLUMP TIME HAS ARRIVED

by Lee Wei Ling

In 2007, in an end-of-year message to the staff of the National Neuroscience Institute, I wrote: 'Whilst boom time in the public sector is never as booming as in the private sector, let us not forget that boom time is eventually followed by slump time. Slump time in the public sector is always less painful compared to the private sector.' Slump time has arrived with a bang.

While I worry about the poorer Singaporeans who will be hit hard, perhaps this recession has come at an opportune time for many of us. It will give us an incentive to reconsider our priorities in life.

Decades of the good life have made us soft. The wealthy especially, but also the middle class in Singapore , have had it so good for so long, what they once considered luxuries, they now think of as necessities.

A mobile phone, for instance, is now a statement about who you are, not just a piece of equipment for communication. Hence many people buy the latest model though their existing mobile phones are still in perfect working order.

A Mercedes-Benz is no longer adequate as a status symbol. For millionaires who wish to show the world they have taste, a Ferrari or a Porsche is deemed more appropriate.

The same attitude influences the choice of attire and accessories. I still find it hard to believe that there are people carrying handbags that cost more than thrice the monthly income of a bus driver, and many more times that of the foreign worker labouring in the hot sun, risking his life to construct luxury condominiums he will never have a chance to live in.

The media encourages and amplifies this ostentatious consumption. Perhaps it is good to encourage people to spend more because this will prevent the recession from getting worse. I am not an economist, but wasn't that the root cause of the current crisis - Americans spending more than they could afford to?

I am not a particularly spiritual person. I don't believe in the supernatural and I don't think I have a soul that will survive my death. But as I view the crass materialism around me, I am reminded of what my mother once told me: 'Suffering and deprivation is good for the soul.'

My family is not poor, but we have been brought up to be frugal. My parents and I live in the same house that my paternal grandparents and their children moved into after World War II in 1945. It is a big house by today's standards, but it is simple - in fact, almost to the point of being shabby.

Those who see it for the first time are astonished that Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew's home is so humble. But it is a comfortable house, a home we have got used to. Though it does look shabby compared to the new mansions on our street, we are not bothered by the comparison.

Most of the world and much of Singapore will lament the economic downturn. We have been told to tighten our belts. There will undoubtedly be suffering, which we must try our best to ameliorate.

But I personally think the hard times will hold a timely lesson for many Singaporeans, especially those born after 1970 who have never lived through difficult times. No matter how poor you are in Singapore , the authorities and social groups do try to ensure you have shelter and food. Nobody starves in Singapore .

Many of those who are currently living in mansions and enjoying a luxurious lifestyle will probably still be able to do so, even if they might have to downgrade from wines costing $20,000 a bottle to $10,000 a bottle. They would hardly notice the difference.

Being wealthy is not a sin. It cannot be in a capitalist market economy. Enjoying the fruits of one's own labour is one's prerogative and I have no right to chastise those who choose to live luxuriously.

But if one is blinded by materialism, there would be no end to wanting and hankering. After the Ferrari, what next? An Aston Martin? After the Hermes Birkin handbag, what can one upgrade to?

Neither an Aston Martin nor a Hermes Birkin can make us truly happy or contented. They are like dust, a fog obscuring the true meaning of life, and can be blown away in the twinkling of an eye.

When the end approaches and we look back on our lives, will we regret the latest mobile phone or luxury car that we did not acquire? Or would we prefer to die at peace with ourselves, knowing that we have lived lives filled with love, friendship and goodwill, that we have helped some of our fellow voyagers along the way and that we have tried our best to leave this world a slightly better place than how we found it?

We know which is the correct choice - and it is within our power to make that choice.

In this new year, burdened as it is with the problems of the year that has just ended, let us again try to choose wisely.

To a considerable degree, our happiness is within our own control, and we should not follow the herd blindly.

The writer is director of the National Neuroscience Institute and Lee Kuan Yew's daughter.

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Don da Pantaier's

Earn As Much As We Can Possibly Then Spend It Foolishly

2009-04-07T01:51:00.000+08:00

Ka-Ching

We live in a greedy little world
That teaches every little boy and girl
To earn as much as they can possibly
Then turn around and
Spend it foolishly
We've created us a credit card mess
We spend the money we don't possess
Our religion is to go and blow it all
So its shoppin every sunday at the mall

All we ever want is more
A lot more than we had before
So take me to the nearest store

[chorus:]
Can you hear it ring
It makes you wanna sing
Its such a beautiful thing--ka-ching!
Lots of diamond rings
The happiness it brings
You'll live like a king
With lots of money and things

When you're broke go and get a loan
Take out another mortgage on your home
Consolidate so you can afford
To go and spend some more when
You get bored

All we ever want is more
A lot more than we had before
So take me to the nearest store

[repeat chorus]

Lets swing
Dig deeper in your pocket
Oh, yeah, ha
Come on I know you've got it
Dig deeper in your wallet
Oh

All we ever want is more
A lot more than we had before
So take me to the nearest store

[repeat chorus]

Can you hear it ring
It makes you wanna sing
You'll live like a king
With lots of money and things
Ka-ching!

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Don da Pantaier's

The First Mastery of the Family Leader

2009-04-03T18:50:00.001+08:00

Leadership in Life Begin with Leadership at Home

"Twenty five years ago, I wish someone told me that the enduring meaning in my life would be found in shaping my children's values, not in my professional success" Rabbi Harold Kushner

Point Summary

Having a 'Family Vision Agreement' help us to be a better parent.
Focus on The Vital Few rather than the Mundane Many
Blaming others is merely a convenient way of excusing yourself and putting all the wrong in your life on the shoulder of other people without having the courage and face your weaknesses head on. Whenever we seek to avoid responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But that means that we then give away our power to that entity.(M Scott Peck "the Road Less Traveled")
Speaking the truth from your heart rather than the words that we know the people around us want to hear.
After quality time, the second best gift we can gift to our kids is the gift of a good example.
Too many parent are giving responsibility of raising their own children to the programming directors of the national networks. It a crime to let your children spend hours on television and minutes with their parents.
Let lots of sunlight into our home, try and have quite family time- no TV no radio no video game running and never forget that the family that plays together is the family that stays together
While children take us parents as a role models, we also can learn a lot from the kids behavior.
Want to know more in more details, get the books.

Inspired by: Robin S Sharma "Family Wisdom from The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" Nurturing The Leader Within Your Child

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Don da Pantaier's

Bapak-Bapak, Ibu-Ibu dan Cikgu-Cikgu! Please Out Our Children As Priority Number One

2009-04-03T13:08:00.001+08:00

image are taken from e-mail circulations.

Summary of the article regarding the cause of the children mental problem are parents handover the care to babysitters, stress, pressure at school, exposure to environmental toxin and exposure to television before age of two.

Quoted from http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/4/3/focus/3617972&sec=focus

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Care for mental health of the young

THE National Health and Morbidity Survey 1996 found the prevalence of psychiatric morbidity in children between the ages of five and 15 was at a high 13%.

However, we note from the recently released Third National Health and Morbidity Survey 2006 – conducted 10 years after the Second Survey – that the prevalence of psychiatric morbidity in children and adolescents has risen to 20.3%. This means an increase of more than 7%.

Perhaps one of the reasons for worsening mental health in Malaysian children is the fact that many parents now hand over the care of their children to babysitters.

Evidence from overseas studies has shown that day care at nurseries for children under the age of two can lead to increased incidence of anti-social behaviour and aggression.

Stress related to factors such as poverty, poor parenting, deplorable physical living conditions, bullying, exposure to domestic violence, sexual abuse, divorce in the family, death of a parent, discrimination and other hardships have all been linked with mental health problems.

The pressures of school can also affect the mental health of children, especially the weaker ones. Much has already been said about the state of education in the country, and the Health Ministry could push for a sound revamp of the schooling system as soon as possible.

Teachers who oversee kindergartens and Year One have to be carefully hand-picked. This is the entry point for children into formal schooling, and as it is, the occasion can already be traumatic for a child.

It can be made all the worse when a teacher is less than understanding, and this may adversely effect the child's whole approach to education.

The effects of excessive exposure to environmental toxins, such as heavy metal lead, can also manifest as problems such as attention deficit syndrome or hyperactivity.

Even exposure to television before the age of two has been linked to creating symptoms such as attention deficiency.

The people look to the Health Ministry for sound and prominent leadership in the area of health, especially to arrest the worsening trends of psychiatric morbidity in our youngsters.

S.M. MOHAMED IDRIS,

President, Consumers Association of Penang.

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Don da Pantaier's

Uturoraman Tiga fighting the invulnerable monster in Kuala Lumpur.

2009-04-03T09:29:00.000+08:00

When the kids are exposed to violent tv show such as ultraman, ben 10, the cute all time figthing tom and jerry and the teen titan, they slightly lost interest on the good nice show like barney.

Pillow fight, wrestling, biting and scratching each other. They got cut and bruises all over their skins.

I'm trying to be optimistic and looking at the bright sides. They will growing up being brave and have a fighter's heart. Make them stronger to face life's challenge ahead. It also create strong bond between them. Really? Yeah right. What bonding? They are twin. Being together in the tight close space before they born have bonding them more than enough. Hehehe.

But they can bond with me when i'm playing the role of the monster while they play the ultraman brothers. Hehehe.

Adik pantai berlakon jatuh bila kene tembak with the face expression complete with the sound effect while abang always good with words. Petah bercakap sampai kadang2 tak terlayan.

It amazing experience with kids at two years old.

And i'm a happy blessed man.

The Love Story That Count

2009-04-02T22:17:00.001+08:00

Where is the love?
The love is in your heart.
Why heart needs loves?
Because the food of the heart is love and all the acts of love.
What are the acts of love?
Little question with very big answer. I think the easiest acts of love is caring. First we find someone we really care about. When we find her, we fight for her, we risk it all. Our life, our futures and we do things that we not really do in normal circumstances. (that sound familiar.... It from the movie 'the girl next door'). In the end, we know that the juice is worth the squeeze.
For me, what really important in love is the element of trust and faith. Its a bit difficult for me to value love without trust. I don't know why. It just my value that I have and the value that I live with. Some people say if we don't trust, we'll never find good people. I also believe that if my trust been betrayed, God will show it someday. I have faith with God when trusting people. But of course I will do the necessary checking and whatever needed to protect my interests if any.
Another thing in love is the efforts for both side to protect, nurture, and whatever other effort to make it work and makesure the fire keep burning forever.
Where is the story??? Ntah.

Gambar ala selesema ditahun lepas (Diri Terpinggir Sewaktu Kurang Bermaya)

2009-04-01T12:52:00.001+08:00

Diri Terpinggir Sewaktu Kurang Bermaya

Fikiran terasa buntu sewaktu dilanda selesema
Terasa diri tidak mampu berada di bumi nyata
Terawangan diantara dua dunia berbeza
Dunia nyata dan alam maya

Diri terus dihimpit dengan bebanan kerja yang menuntut kesabaran
Ketabahan yang semakin menipis
Entahkan sesaat jauhnya dari putus asa
Dan menyerah kepada tuntutan fizikal
Untuk mengambil cuti sakit dan berehat sahaja

Wahai mindaku
Kuatkanlah semangatmu
Pimpinlah diriku
Mengharungi perit hari ini
Jangan dipinggirkan diri ini
Sudahkan tanggungjawab kita
Agar lena tidur kita
Dimalam nanti.

1. Saya telah diserang selesema sejak semalam. Pertahanan badan saya

dari dijangkiti selesema ini telah runtuh ekoran meredah hujan lebat

dari stesen LRT ke rumah pada hari sebelumnya. Ahli keluarga saya

yang lain telah dilanda selesema sejak minggu lepas lagi.

2. Saya bercadang untuk mengambil cuti sakit hari ini dan berehat di

rumah untuk kelegaan yang lebih cepat. Disebabkan saya telah

mengalami sedikit salah faham (minor disagreement) dengan

receptionist di klinik pagi tadi, saya telah membatalkan hasrat

untuk berjumpa doktor. Bila sampai ke pejabat, kesan penghawa dingin

menjadikan selesema ini menjadi semakin teruk dan kepala menjadi

berat.

3. Fikiran menjadi bercelaru dan tidak dapat berfikir serta bekerja

dengan baik. Disebabkan tuntutan kerja yang memerlukan perhatian

segera, serta ketiadaan rakan sekerja yang mungkin dapat membantu,

saya telah tersangkut di pejabat. Rakan sekerja saya hanya akan

kembali ke pejabat minggu hadapan kerana beliau sedang bercuti sakit

ekoran dari pembedahan kecil yang dilakukan kerana sakit belakang.

4. Saya merasakan semua pelanggan memberi tindakbalas yang amat

lambat pada hari ini. Setiap e-mail dan panggilan telefon masih

belum berbalas. Dan saya hanya menunggu. Terus menunggu, Saya

merancang untuk menelefon pihak-pihak yang berkaitan tersebut

selepas waktu makan tengah hari. Saya berharap agar semua tugasan

yang tergantung ini dapat diselesaikan pada hari ini juga.

Nota Kaki: Komen dari seorang rakan baik semalam amat tepat. Terasa

amat sukar untuk menulis dalam bahasa melayu yang betul dan lengkap

seperti ini. Perlukah saya sekadar menulis seperti percakapan

seharian atau terus mendukung bahasa melayu yang sukar ini sehingga

ia menjadi mudah? Kebiasaan akan memudahkan. Alah Biasa Tegal Biasa.

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Don da Pantaier's

Wish List of the Guy Who Change His Mobile Phone 5 Time in the Last 3 Years

2009-03-31T19:40:00.001+08:00

1. Which one is more compelling?
2. Which one I wanna choose?
3. Which one give more value for money?
4. Confused?
5. Which one I will really use frequently?
6. Which one that I really want and that I need?

I have MP3 player of which I end up listening MP3 from my mobile phone.
We have digital camera which I end up taking picture using my mobile phone.
I have laptop which I end up surfing internet on my PDA.
If I have Playstation, will I end up playing video game on my desktop / laptop?
Will I end up buying just for the pleasure of buying?
Should I just donate / give away that money to people out there who need it most, and I can make this world a little better place (just a tiny bit little)? Should I just spend it for some greater cause rather than spending it on gadget which end up some piece of junk in my drawer?
Or just keep it liquid in some saving for the bad time? People saying that the worst of this economic crisis is yet to come. This time the outlook is a lot worse than any recession before. It will take longer than five years to recover.

Canon Digital SLR Camera
Came across this toy few months back. Influenced by a few hardcore photographer at my office. But I think that I will not carry this heavy gadget with all kind of accessories around a lot. That why I end up taking picture using my mobile phone. Always keep my mobile phone with me. When the moment for taking the picture come, I can just snap.
One items out of question. Three to go.

Blackberry Curve 8900
Very easy for e-mails function while on the go. Also come with some image. The image of multinational company's executive. And the internet browsing, office application, as well as instant messaging (yahoo) 24/7. Some model give a good Global Positioning System (GPS) for easy reference while we lost or traveling to some unfamiliar places. But I think my current PDA do the job well. And I really comfortable with Windows Mobile now. Feeling quite reluctant to switch to Symbian or other OS for phone. Two to go.

PlayStation Portable
Never pay attention to this gadget before. Just today, i fell like want to know more about this. Do some information searching on this. Finally concluded that I don't really need this gadget for now considering limited features it can offer. Gaming. Internet browsing. MP3 and movies. Only connected to the internet via WIFI. So no internet on the go. I frequently surf internet while commuting. Better stick to my old outdated PDA.

Nokia E71
Just discovered today that this gadget has been selected Best Mobile Phone in WIRED Magazine's 2008 Best of Test. I have no idea on the reputation of this magazine. But this phone, it design, features, application, talktime, standby time... I just like it.
But do i need it? How bad I want it?

mmmmmm.... mmmmm....

Don da Pantaier's

Syukur

2009-03-31T12:22:00.001+08:00

1. Saya telah dikurniakan dua orang anak lelaki kembar. Mereka

berumur 2 tahun pada bulan lepas.Saya amat bersyukur dengan kurniaan

ini.

2.Saya juga amat bersyukur dikurniakan isteri yang amat penyayang dan bertanggungjawab.

2. Saya bekerja di sebuah syarikat yang menambahkan bilangan pekerja

dalam waktu krisis ekonomi seperti sekarang. Saya bersyukur dengan

kestabilan syarikat ini.

3. Saya mempunyai abang, kakak, adik lelaki, adik perempuan, kakak

ipar, abang ipar dan adik ipar yang semuanya baik dengan saya. Saya

juga amat bersyukur kedua ibu bapa dan kedua mertua saya masih ada.

4. Saya juga amat bersyukur kerana mempunyai kesihatan yang baik.

5. Saya juga amat bersyukur kerana bersyukur hari ini.

Nota: Rahmat tuhan yang dilimpahi dalam hidup saya jauh lebih banyak dan tak mampu disenaraikan disini. Syukur alhamdulillah untuk semuanya.

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Don da Pantaier's

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours Lyrics

2009-03-14T04:40:00.003+08:00

Just find the time to put the effort to get this song and looking for the lyric and listening to it again and again. Did some info finding about this song. Released in may last year. Made it to top 10 hit on the Billboard Hit 100.
And I'm only now is listening to this song. Yeah kinda slow on this. Part of my likes in music where it more toward old song kinda oldies gitu.

What the heck i'm doing listening to Jason Mraz at 4 in the morning???
Slept early tonight because i'm really felt not well. Been sleeping all day coz on MC today. And now can't sleep anymore...

Here the lyrics before this laptop run out of battery.

Well you done done me and you bet I felt it
I tried to be chill but you're so hot that I melted
I fell right through the cracks
and now I'm trying to get back
Before the cool done run out
I'll be giving it my best test
Nothing's going to stop me but divine intervention
I reckon it's again my turn to win some or learn some

I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait, I'm yours

Well open up your mind and see like me
Open up your plans and damn you're free
Look into your heart and you'll find love love love
Listen to the music of the moment maybe sing with me
A lá peaceful melody
It's your God-forsaken right to be loved love loved love loved

So I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait I'm sure
There's no need to complicate
Our time is short
This is our fate, I'm yours

I've been spending way too long checking my tongue in the mirror
And bending over backwards just to try to see it clearer
My breath fogged up the glass
And so I drew a new face and laughed
I guess what I'ma saying is there ain't no better reason
To rid yourself of vanity and just go with the seasons
It's what we aim to do
Our name is our virtue

I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait I'm sure
There's no need to complicate
Our time is short
this is our fate, I'm yours

Well no no, well open up your mind and see like me
Open up your plans and damn you're free
Look into your heart and you'll find the sky is yours
Listen to the music of the moment come and dance with me
A lá one big family (2nd time: A lá happy family; 3rd time: A lá peaceful melody)
It's your God-forsaken right to be loved love love love

I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait, I'm sure
There's no need to complicate
Our time is short
This is our fate, I'm yours

No please, don't complicate
Our time is short
This is our fate, I'm yours

No please, don't hesitate
no more, no more
It cannot wait
The sky is your's!

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Moments in the Weekends

2009-03-10T11:10:00.005+08:00

Despite the long weekend, (public holiday on Monday), we only spend the time at home. Went for some groceries shopping. Abang is very helpful with his mama for the shopping while adik keep sleeping in the car, with Abah of course.

Got adik his first haircut by the barber. Before this i cut their hair myself.

Here the pictures:

Stylo with the new hair cut while going back home in the elevator....

Abang also have the style... tangan dlm poket... Klu kembar tu, kembar jugak lah... hehehe...

On the way for pizza. Abang now very helpful with the chores. As early as two years old, he already eager in helping his mama...

The boys are not really in their normal hyper active mood yesterday. Bit quite. Maybe they knew that i will be off for business traveling.

Miss them already.

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Love Quote

2009-03-06T12:02:00.001+08:00

"True love doesn't need words, true love can speak for itself". Jodie Lake

Then why so many people miss their chance to have the love of their dream girls because didn't have the gut to say it our? Is it because the love is not a truely true love?

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Don da Pantaier's

The Power of Love

2009-03-06T11:58:00.001+08:00

The world seem to much to take for me lately. Been stressfull and tired with all the things that i have to do. But the love that we have give me strength to go through.

And today is the realizing day. When i feel all the stress gone. And i found some peace at mind. Together we have let go things that we want, but not really need. Together we reaffirm on our goals and things we wanna achieved in our life.

And today my dear, i would like to reaffirm here that i love you. Loved you before, maybe it not too much to say that it is from the first time i saw you.
Love you today... even more and more...
Love you always...

And i like you new hair cut.

But i think today i will still be stuck in the office to clear things before travelling next week.

"sayang isteri tinggal-tinggalkan"

wonder what is the significant of this proverb.

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The Power Of Love

The whispers in the morning
Of lovers sleeping tight
Are rolling by like thunder now
As I look in your eyes

I hold on to your body
And feel each move you make
Your voice is warm and tender
A love that I could not forsake

(chorus)
'Cause I'm your lady
And you are my man
Whenever you reach for me
I'll do all that I can

Thust is how I'm feeling
Lying in your arms
when the world seem to much to take
That all ends when I am with you
Even though there may be times
It seems I'm farther away
Never wonder where I am
'Cause I am always by your side

(2nd chorus)
'Cause I am your lady
And you are my man
Whenever you reach for me
I'll do all that I can
We're heading for something
Somewhere I've never been
Sometimes I am frightened
But I'm ready to learn
Of the power of love

The sound of your heart beating
Made it clear suddenly
the feeling that I can't go on
Is a light years away

ooh ooh oooh
sometimes i am frightened by im ready to learnt
the power of love

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This is our song during our pre-marriage love relationship. And i still like to hear this song and still listening this song every now and then. Just the different is you prefer Celine Deon version while i like the Jennifer Rush one.

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Don da Pantaier's

Mini Cooper

2009-03-06T00:24:00.001+08:00

Posting another picture of the Mini Cooper Remote Control Car. The difference with this new one is it is taken by semi-pro photographer with his high-end camera.

With some advance setting and shuttle speed adjusting, the picture is becoming a lot lot lot more interesting compared to my 1.3 megapixel oil nokia camera phone.

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Don da Pantaier's

Cara Menjadi Blogger Terkenal Macam Hanis Zalikha

2009-03-06T00:17:00.001+08:00

Reposting this entry without permission from the original writer, a famous blogger, just to remind myself again and again about blogging. Seem like i always stuck with my 'writer's block'. I used to have a number of regular visitor to this blog. But seem like i let them down by not posting for weeks. Hopefully, with this tips, i can help me overcome it.

14 Tips Menjadi Blogger Masyhur/Terkenal Seperti Saya

Seringkali dihujani emel (dan juga titisan hujan, tapi itu lain cerita) dengan soalan-soalan seperti bagaimana caranya untuk menambah trafik blog saya, atau apakah langkah yang boleh saya ambil bagi menarik pembaca ke blog saya atau Hanis, bolehkah anda berkongsi rahsia menjadi seorang blogger yang masyhur atau Hanis sudikah anda mengahwini saya, nama saya Jordan Chan. YA T_T Okay mungkin terlalu obvious soalan yang last itu cipta sendiri.

Maka dengan ini, saya dengan murah hati (tangan yang memberi adalah lebih baik dari tangan okay okay cukup) untuk berkongsi perkara-perkara yang saya pelajari sendiri setelah sekian lama bergiat (lama? 9bulan lama? lama lah, kalau bayi, dah pandai menggeliat dah) dalam dunia belog, menceritakan perihal sehari-hari kepada yang jauh dan yang dekat (dan tak sangka kepada, yang berminat), seterusnya mengglamourkan blog ini, disamping mendapat pendapatan sampingan darinya (kini anda juga boleh!).

Walaupun pada awalnya, hanya berbelog untuk mengekspresi dirimu, tapi alhamdullillah, saya dikurniakan rezeki darinya dan kini pendidikan saya dibiayai oleh wang pendapatan dari belog :') Saya sangat teringin jikalau lebih ramai orang dapat merasai sendiri manfaat dari dunia belog. Sumpah teruja sangat okay ketika dalam usaha mengkompilasikan tips-tips untuk pembaca tersayang! Ingat, jangan kedekut ilmu pengetahuan :)

Mempersembahkan (sumpah kenapa teruja gila siap mempersembahkan segala, malu I), tips-tips menjadi blogger berjaya yang anda mungkin terlepas pandang.

1. Perihal alamat surat-menyurat.
Alamat belog haruslah sesuatu yang amat senang diingat dan difahami tetapi unik/catchy. Dan anda juga harus senang sebut in order to promote your blog. Kalau boleh guna word typical yang orang tak perlu tanya "Eh macam mana nak eja?". Tak kiralah kalau itu adalah nama panggilan masa kecil atau nama anda di chatroom@15, tetapi kalau ianya menyusahkan untuk dieja dan diingat, IA SANGAT TIDAK SESUAI UNTUK DIJADIKAN ALAMAT BELOG. Contoh:

www.zejendulhotstuffxz.blogspot.com
OKAY CUBA HAFAL SEKARANG. OKAY DAH FAIL. NEXT.

2. Tajuk belog hebat.

Tajuk belog haruslah sesuatu yang menarik perhatian orang, bagi menyinarkan belog anda ketika berada selari dengan belog-belog lain di dalam senarai belog seseorang. Seperti tajuk belog saya ialah 'Hanis Zalikha'. Adalah sangat annoying kepada orang-orang yang tidak mengenali saya untuk melihat link saya berada di mana-mana. SIAPA HANIS ZALIKHA NI DOH ASAL SEMUA ORANG NAK LINK DIA *click belog Hanis Zalikha untuk mengetahui lebih lanjut*. Ha macam itulah contohnya, ngerti? Cuba kalau saya letak The Diary Of My Life atau My Lifez Dairy (tenusu) atau My Little Footsteps atau Hanis's Own World/Mind, ada mahu click? JUJUR LAH WEH.

3. Tajuk entri mengancam
Ini seperti tidak perlu diberitahu lagi (common sense), tapi takpelah, beritahu juga. Tajuk entri sangat, malah paling penting, lagi-lagi kini, blog list disertakan sekali dengan option mempamerkan tajuk entri, maka di sinilah peluang anda untuk menonjolkan kehebatan entri anda, dimulai dengan tajuk yang hebat. Tahukah anda, hanya dengan tajuk entri "Nabil Raja Lawak Tidak Berbaju", trafik saya naik kepada 15%?

4. Isi entri setimpal.
ISI ENTRI BIAR SETIMPAL DENGAN TAJUK. JANGAN GEDIK BAGI TAJUK 14 TIPS MENJADI BLOGGER BERJAYA YANG ANDA MUNGKIN TERLEPAS PANDANG LEPAS TUH RUPANYA CERITA PASAL HARI INI NAK PERGI BELI J.CO DONUT. Atau tajuk Model Juga Tidak Memerlukan Ijazah rupanya cerita pasal peluh petani. Tsk T_T

5. Perkara yang harus dielakkan.
Elakkan mengeja perkataan dengan ejaan pasar seperti MACHAM DAN PUNYE DAN CAKAB DAN DAN, OKAY DAH. Elak juga mengeja dengan short form seperti saya dieja sebagai sy, aku dieja sebagai ak, engkau dieja sebagai kau, eh itu takpe. Kenapa harus elak? Kerana tiada siapa cari bahan di Search Engine dengan menggunakan short form. Ingat, isi-isi dalam blog anda mungkin akan timbul di carian jika perkataan yang dicari terdapat dalam entri anda. Contohnya, I nak search lirik lagu Aku Cinta Padamu, takkan lah nak taip "Lirik Ak Cinta Pdmu".

6.Lirik lagu.
Peluang untuk blog anda timbul dalam carian cerah adalah bila anda meletak lirik lagu terbaru. Ingat lagi dulu, di blog lamaku (HANIS DULU ADA BLOG?! Ya. Waktu muda-muda dulu), lirik lagu My Heart telah dipamerkan selesainya menonton cerita Heart. Berjayalah tambah pembaca, dalam 2 orang (mari gelak). Selain lirik lagu, alternatif lain adalah resepi kek cawan dan guitar chords lagu-lagu rock kapak.

7. Kosa kata yang luas.
Rasanya ini boleh fikir sendiri kenapa ianya penting. Ingat: Search Engine.

8. Perihal gambar.
Adalah sangat malang sekiranya gambar yang blur juga anda mahu letak. Ini adalah major turn off. Jangan risau, saya sendiri pernah melalui fasa ini ketika Digital Camera rosak, dan Cellphone ku hanyalah 1.3 megapixel, sumpah pathetic kejap belog ini.

9. Perihal gambar 2.
Lumrah manusia sukakan benda cantik. Jadi carilah background yang cantik-cantik untuk anda bergambar. Rasanya, adalah tidak perlu untuk memaparkan betapa tidak putihnya cadar katil anda yang putih. Cari lighting yang cantik dan have the effort to look good on camera, tak kira kau cantik goddess mana, mungkin tidak patut jika gambar muka baru bangun tidur, bertahi mata dipampangkan. Anda nampak malas dan apakah motif gambar tersebut sebenarnya, again? (Unless nak tunjuk gambar sebelum selepas mekap/pembedahan/slimming, ini dikecualikan, tapi kalau nak kata good morning world atau nak tunjuk teddy bear boyfriend baru bagi siap letak sebelah muka, harap hindari). Tapi ke tahap mengphotoshop kulit, hidung, bulu mata, adalah agak over dan tidak jujur ya.

10. Tema.
Tema belog adalah berbeza mengikut citarasa, tapi apa yang penting (BUKAN KERJASAMA, TAK HABIS-HABIS BENDA NIH MUAK KAU PAHAM TAK), jangan menyakitkan mata pembaca dengan font berwarna neon dengan background YANG NEON JUGA. Ini juga common sense, tetapi selalu terlepas pandang. Simple but nice, cliche but true.

11. Pendapatan(wang,duit,ringgit) dari blog.
Untuk menjana pendapatan dari blog, sila daftarkan diri dengan Nuffnang di www.nuffnang.com.my, dan jikalau trafik anda memberangsangkan, anda sudah boleh mula diberi advertorial iaitu membuat product reviews dan dijemput ke produk launch etc!

12. Carutan dan kutukan.
Semua orang ada pendapat masing-masing, tapi cara anda menyampaikan mesej kepada pembaca itulah yang penting. Sebagai pengiklan, mahukah anda mengiklankan produk anda di sebuah blog yang penuh dengan benda-benda negatif, kutukan, dan carutan? Jangan buang masa dengan bahan sebegini lagi wahai pembacaku, buka minda anda dan tingkatkan pendapatan dengan belog anda sekarang! Pengiklan juga jarang memberi perhatian kepada anonymous blogger, no matter how famous ~~you~~ your blog is, please take note.

13. Psikologi minda.
Sebelum terlupa, adalah sangat penting anda menganalisa minda pembaca/pengguna internet. Contohnya, yang mana anda lebih cenderung untuk klik, www.hansisaac.com atau www.hansisaac.blogspot.com ? Perkataan ".blogspot", sedar atau tidak, adalah satu perkataan yang sangat berpengaruh dalam dunia IT. Kenapa? Lagi sekali, lumrah manusia, suka sangat tahu perihal hidup orang lain. Kalau '.com' biasanya website rasmi di mana hanya akan muncul profil lengkap atau online portfolio Hans Isaac, tetapi apabila wujud perkataan blogspot, sah-sah ditulis sendiri (first hand) pengalaman hidup/diari seharian etc. Bila anda nampak perkataan '.blogspot.com', sure anda mahu cekidaud. Betul? Eh macam tak sesuai je guna Hans Isaac sebagai contoh, sebab rasanya, ada blogspot ke takde, pasti klik juga :B Okay tak kisahlah, saja nak bincangkan pengaruh perkataan tersebut. Unless anda sudah ada steady traffic, bolehlah beralih kepada '.com'. TERIMAKASIH KEPADA PENCIPTA www.haniszalikha.com, JASA ANDA AMAT DIHARGAI :)

14. Variasi topik.
JANGAN MEMBORINGKAN ORANG RAMAI EVEN KAWAN-KAWAN SENDIRI DENGAN PERKARA YANG SAMA SAHAJA. INGAT VARIASI! VARIASI! VARIASI! Contoh topik/tajuk: Perkara menarik di website kegemaran saya, kemudian lusa pula: Jejaka idaman saya yang nescaya saya takkan dapat dalam kehidupan sebenar (kemudian senaraikan berserta gambar), dua hari selepas lusa: Surah-surah yang boleh diamalkan untuk mendapat anak sehensem Nabi Yusuf, insyallah. Tajuk-tajuk menarik sebegini bolehlah diselangi dengan catatan aktiviti seharian anda :)

Saya akhiri entri ini dengan:

Please please please ambil lah perkara yang saya kongsi ini (bukan dengan cara terasa hati atau apa-apa pleasee) dan aplikasikannya sedikit sebanyak. Saya sangat ingin membantu supaya orang ramai tidak lagi berbelog kosong dan membuang masa, memanglah nak share knowledge/experiences etc or so you claimed, but if you can earn extra income from it, then why sumpahseranah not? Saya dah susah payah luangkan masa untuk semua ini, saya harap sangat dapat membantu para penanya di luar sana, dan orang yang baru nak mulakan blog. Kiranya ini Tips Untuk Mula Blog jugalah ya. Okay kan semua? Paham? Okay nanti Buku Nilam hantar kat bilik saya. Haha tiba-tiba.

Sebarang pertanyaan tentang aplikasi belog, sila sertakan SEKARANG. Ada masa, saya cuba jawab perlahan-lahan, jangan putus asa andai terabai sebentar di comment window saya, saya cuba sehabis baik okay? Ke arah kemajuan bangsa! Bangsa Malaysia! KEJAP LUPA NAK CAKAP, TAJUK ENTRI YANG MENJENGKELKAN INI HANYALAH CONTOH UNTUK MENUNJUKKAN BETAPA KUATNYA PENGARUH TAJUK ENTRI KEPADA SUMBANGAN TRAFIK. ITU SAHAJA. SAYA BUKAN MASYHUR/TERKENAL PUN. OKAY BYE.

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Been very busy at work lately with lot of this going on my mind. Have frequent meetings and travelling on business. A lot of reports need to be done as well in view of closing this financial year as well as the coming of the new bosses.

On personal/family matter, things also become tighter since the unavailability of domestic helper i used to have. Have to prepare the milk and changing diapers of which i not done in more than one year. Anyway, it worth the experiences and the efforts as the twin boys is growing up well. Like i used to quote from a movie "the girl next door"... the juice is worth the squeeze.

Till the next posting...

Don da Pantaier's

Giant Snakehead and Remote Control Car

2009-02-19T15:32:00.001+08:00

Ikan toman in a pond at the lobby of Tanjung Tuan Apartment, Port Dickson during our recent holiday there. We all have a very good time there.

The remote control cars was intended for my twin sons, however since it have many small parts and will easily break if it fall into the hand of the kids, so i keep it for myself. Hehehe.

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Don da Pantaier's

HaPPynEss

2008-12-23T12:00:00.001+08:00

Some little time spent together at just nearby park can be high quality time...

no need a vacation to europe
no need a time and money costly trip
no need
really?

no idea...

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Don da Pantaier's

Something in December

2008-12-18T14:23:00.001+08:00

This morning, when i off from home to office...

It's a windy day. It's not the 'about to rain kind of wind', it's a bright sun shiny day. But with wind blowing continuously.

It refreshing, make my day.

It really beautiful day with wind like that.

For a second, i remember London. Even though it nothing like being in country side of London, but the feeling it bring is same like being there.

I also remember back in my hometown, during my school days. It usually happening in December during school break. When the rainy season end, and the dry season coming. In the middle, there will be windy days like today. There will be wind all the time...

I really like this feeling...

Good time, good days... Thank god for this bless...

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Don da Pantaier's

Some Pictures

2008-12-09T12:31:00.000+08:00

Since I have no interest neither ideas to update this pity blog... here are some pictures...

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Don da Pantaier's

Law of the garbage truck

2008-11-28T18:32:00.000+08:00

got it somewhere... republish it here...

Law of the Garbage Truck

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really very friendly. So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!' This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.

Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.. The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so... Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Have a blessed, garbage-free day!

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Don da Pantaier's

Quote

2008-11-27T00:23:00.002+08:00

"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." -
-- Henry David Thoreau

Watched the film, ”Into The Wild.” like the idea of leaving everything behind.

The rapid pace of modern life, the rat race, inflated salaries, gadgets..... The film concludes with the dying words of the loner, who realizes experiencing life ALONE is the most painful of tragedies.

“So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more dangerous to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.”

— Chris McCandless

Breakfast at Cameroon

2008-11-24T10:59:00.001+08:00

15 November 2008

Went to Cameroon for a cozy breakfast in the tea farm.

What nices there....

environment

cool

Fresh flower and strawberry...

note: got only one picture with me now... may add later once available.

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Don da Pantaier's